"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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should I ask for these girl's numbers

JPlaya

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One, I occasionally fb chat and she seems interested, but she looks like one of those overly friendly type of girls.

The other I don't talk to much, but she smiles at me in the hallway and I had a brief conversation with her. I think she's in to me, but she's one of those overly Christian girls.

I'm going to also have to do it over fb since school is over.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Gam

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I could be wrong but I can't see you making too much head way with either girl. Unless you further develop rapport with the first girl she won't be very responsive and people are kinda superficial on facebook so it's hard to tell if there's any genuine interest.

You don't seem that interested in the christian girl but her probably interest in you seems to be what's tugging at you. For this girl it really depends on what your goals are. If you just want to get close and have her become your gf then approaching her wouldn't be bad since the ball is in your court, but if you're looking for sex then I'd say look elsewhere.

Hope this helps
 

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I've talked to the first girl in person. She started talking to me and we got moved close together in class. The connection broke when the teachers separated us, but I still say hi to her and stuff.
 

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No. You shouldn't.

How's that for an answer? You shouldn't ask them for their numbers.
 

blueline

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What would you have to lose if you asked both for their numbers?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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