well, ive known this girl for well over 3 years... i really like her A LOT! ive liked her more than any other girl ive met... But im not to sure if i should i ask her out. She doesnt seem interested in me. Is it to late for me since we are friends now??? what should i do?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
should i ask a friend out??
- Thread starter eyeloveme
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Link located at the top of the forum, right hand side.Blatant truth
Don Juan
Ask her out. It's only been what...three years!?
She couldn't have possibly put you in the friend's zone by then...no way. And even though she seems not interested in a FRIEND, ask her.
Tell us how it goes...
:crackup:
She couldn't have possibly put you in the friend's zone by then...no way. And even though she seems not interested in a FRIEND, ask her.
Tell us how it goes...
:crackup:
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You cannot ask her out yet, because you're not ready. You haven't done your homework. You dont have enough ammo, you've already lost. You dont have a business plan nor an exit strategy.
Next time think of this situation as a game. A game need to have strategies and skills. The DJ bible provide the strategies and its up to you to develope the knowledge, skills, attidude, wisdom ect.
Suppose you ask her out tomorrow, then she say yes. We may say that you have a "date anticipation". Similarly, you might have a "reject anticipation".
If you knew that tomorrow a coin would be tossed to decide whether you would get a date or a reject, we should say that you had a 1/2 date, 1/2 reject anticipation. Thus an anticpation of an individual is a state and various probabilities of other contingencies.
Now, if you ask her out you will get 50% chance to get a date. Even if you get a reject, you will not lose anything. No risk is involve.
BUT.. .. you have already put your money on the table by saying you like her a lot. And you might be in the "friend zone" (the point of no return). She is now have the upper hand. If you lose, you can lose you self pride -> turns in to low confident .... ect -> to no values. Your risk is now greater than your return.
I suggest you take your money off the table, gamble it without the risk. No matter how it turns out, study the strategies, develope your skills. Go on out and play other games, get involve in "date anticipation" without risk. Eventually you will get a date.
Next time think of this situation as a game. A game need to have strategies and skills. The DJ bible provide the strategies and its up to you to develope the knowledge, skills, attidude, wisdom ect.
Suppose you ask her out tomorrow, then she say yes. We may say that you have a "date anticipation". Similarly, you might have a "reject anticipation".
If you knew that tomorrow a coin would be tossed to decide whether you would get a date or a reject, we should say that you had a 1/2 date, 1/2 reject anticipation. Thus an anticpation of an individual is a state and various probabilities of other contingencies.
Now, if you ask her out you will get 50% chance to get a date. Even if you get a reject, you will not lose anything. No risk is involve.
BUT.. .. you have already put your money on the table by saying you like her a lot. And you might be in the "friend zone" (the point of no return). She is now have the upper hand. If you lose, you can lose you self pride -> turns in to low confident .... ect -> to no values. Your risk is now greater than your return.
I suggest you take your money off the table, gamble it without the risk. No matter how it turns out, study the strategies, develope your skills. Go on out and play other games, get involve in "date anticipation" without risk. Eventually you will get a date.
darth yoda
Don Juan
Master Chuchu is correct...much wisdom I see in his posts.