well, ive known this girl for well over 3 years... i really like her A LOT! ive liked her more than any other girl ive met... But im not to sure if i should i ask her out. She doesnt seem interested in me. Is it to late for me since we are friends now??? what should i do?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
should i ask a friend out??
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Link located at the top of the forum, right hand side.Blatant truth
Don Juan
Ask her out. It's only been what...three years!?
She couldn't have possibly put you in the friend's zone by then...no way. And even though she seems not interested in a FRIEND, ask her.
Tell us how it goes...
:crackup:
She couldn't have possibly put you in the friend's zone by then...no way. And even though she seems not interested in a FRIEND, ask her.
Tell us how it goes...
:crackup:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You cannot ask her out yet, because you're not ready. You haven't done your homework. You dont have enough ammo, you've already lost. You dont have a business plan nor an exit strategy.
Next time think of this situation as a game. A game need to have strategies and skills. The DJ bible provide the strategies and its up to you to develope the knowledge, skills, attidude, wisdom ect.
Suppose you ask her out tomorrow, then she say yes. We may say that you have a "date anticipation". Similarly, you might have a "reject anticipation".
If you knew that tomorrow a coin would be tossed to decide whether you would get a date or a reject, we should say that you had a 1/2 date, 1/2 reject anticipation. Thus an anticpation of an individual is a state and various probabilities of other contingencies.
Now, if you ask her out you will get 50% chance to get a date. Even if you get a reject, you will not lose anything. No risk is involve.
BUT.. .. you have already put your money on the table by saying you like her a lot. And you might be in the "friend zone" (the point of no return). She is now have the upper hand. If you lose, you can lose you self pride -> turns in to low confident .... ect -> to no values. Your risk is now greater than your return.
I suggest you take your money off the table, gamble it without the risk. No matter how it turns out, study the strategies, develope your skills. Go on out and play other games, get involve in "date anticipation" without risk. Eventually you will get a date.
Next time think of this situation as a game. A game need to have strategies and skills. The DJ bible provide the strategies and its up to you to develope the knowledge, skills, attidude, wisdom ect.
Suppose you ask her out tomorrow, then she say yes. We may say that you have a "date anticipation". Similarly, you might have a "reject anticipation".
If you knew that tomorrow a coin would be tossed to decide whether you would get a date or a reject, we should say that you had a 1/2 date, 1/2 reject anticipation. Thus an anticpation of an individual is a state and various probabilities of other contingencies.
Now, if you ask her out you will get 50% chance to get a date. Even if you get a reject, you will not lose anything. No risk is involve.
BUT.. .. you have already put your money on the table by saying you like her a lot. And you might be in the "friend zone" (the point of no return). She is now have the upper hand. If you lose, you can lose you self pride -> turns in to low confident .... ect -> to no values. Your risk is now greater than your return.
I suggest you take your money off the table, gamble it without the risk. No matter how it turns out, study the strategies, develope your skills. Go on out and play other games, get involve in "date anticipation" without risk. Eventually you will get a date.
darth yoda
Don Juan
Master Chuchu is correct...much wisdom I see in his posts.