well, ive known this girl for well over 3 years... i really like her A LOT! ive liked her more than any other girl ive met... But im not to sure if i should i ask her out. She doesnt seem interested in me. Is it to late for me since we are friends now??? what should i do?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
should i ask a friend out??
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Link located at the top of the forum, right hand side.Blatant truth
Don Juan
Ask her out. It's only been what...three years!?
She couldn't have possibly put you in the friend's zone by then...no way. And even though she seems not interested in a FRIEND, ask her.
Tell us how it goes...
:crackup:
She couldn't have possibly put you in the friend's zone by then...no way. And even though she seems not interested in a FRIEND, ask her.
Tell us how it goes...
:crackup:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You cannot ask her out yet, because you're not ready. You haven't done your homework. You dont have enough ammo, you've already lost. You dont have a business plan nor an exit strategy.
Next time think of this situation as a game. A game need to have strategies and skills. The DJ bible provide the strategies and its up to you to develope the knowledge, skills, attidude, wisdom ect.
Suppose you ask her out tomorrow, then she say yes. We may say that you have a "date anticipation". Similarly, you might have a "reject anticipation".
If you knew that tomorrow a coin would be tossed to decide whether you would get a date or a reject, we should say that you had a 1/2 date, 1/2 reject anticipation. Thus an anticpation of an individual is a state and various probabilities of other contingencies.
Now, if you ask her out you will get 50% chance to get a date. Even if you get a reject, you will not lose anything. No risk is involve.
BUT.. .. you have already put your money on the table by saying you like her a lot. And you might be in the "friend zone" (the point of no return). She is now have the upper hand. If you lose, you can lose you self pride -> turns in to low confident .... ect -> to no values. Your risk is now greater than your return.
I suggest you take your money off the table, gamble it without the risk. No matter how it turns out, study the strategies, develope your skills. Go on out and play other games, get involve in "date anticipation" without risk. Eventually you will get a date.
Next time think of this situation as a game. A game need to have strategies and skills. The DJ bible provide the strategies and its up to you to develope the knowledge, skills, attidude, wisdom ect.
Suppose you ask her out tomorrow, then she say yes. We may say that you have a "date anticipation". Similarly, you might have a "reject anticipation".
If you knew that tomorrow a coin would be tossed to decide whether you would get a date or a reject, we should say that you had a 1/2 date, 1/2 reject anticipation. Thus an anticpation of an individual is a state and various probabilities of other contingencies.
Now, if you ask her out you will get 50% chance to get a date. Even if you get a reject, you will not lose anything. No risk is involve.
BUT.. .. you have already put your money on the table by saying you like her a lot. And you might be in the "friend zone" (the point of no return). She is now have the upper hand. If you lose, you can lose you self pride -> turns in to low confident .... ect -> to no values. Your risk is now greater than your return.
I suggest you take your money off the table, gamble it without the risk. No matter how it turns out, study the strategies, develope your skills. Go on out and play other games, get involve in "date anticipation" without risk. Eventually you will get a date.
darth yoda
Don Juan
Master Chuchu is correct...much wisdom I see in his posts.