"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Should I ask a female out more then once if they don't respond?

jackhamma

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Hey everyone,

I have been meeting a lot of women online and getting a few phone numbers. I text them, we start talking, and I ask them on a date and most of them not all, but most are busy or have an excuse.

This one I am really into I asked her on a date and she told me she was super busy this week but lets try for next week! So a week later I asked her out again for Wednesday and she said she might have a birthday party but she will let me know!

She has not gotten back to me. Is it loser/desperate/needy if I message her again to see when SHE is available? Or should I just cut my losses with women like this? Thanks!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Sensible

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Drop it man, she'll get back to you if she really wants. You should have learned by now that chasing girls never works. If you message her after this point you will look like one of those losers. And probably she has dozens of other men like you. Anyway, why are you trying it on internet? Go out there and try the real world. Meet with people, interact personally. How can they like you without seeing you?

Another thing is, the way you ask her out is not correct. You shouldn't say something like "can we meet on wednesday". What you should say is "when are you free this week?".
 

Redwood

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If she never had a counteroffer, forget about her, brother.

Focus on your other potential plates.
 

Rainman4707

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Yeah most of the time it's a lost cause in your situation. Quite recently I met up with a HB 7.7 a few times. We had fun on all 3 meetings, but she wouldn't kiss me. I normally wouldn't ask a girl the ? "whats going on with us" but I felt that it would'nt progress any further if I didn't..so I asked her "what do you see me as? A friend? We then agreed to meet up next day & see what happens. I've been kissing her & ****ing her ever since.

You know everything that has happened between you & this girl so you are best to make the decision..all we can do here is give advice on what you have wrote. I think some people on here give up to easily. Maybe you could ask her out once more.

You think that you're "really into her" but she will more than likely be different than you imagine when you meet her.
 

El Payaso

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FLAKE!!!! I know this all too well. Lol.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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VladPatton

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Definitely cut your losses. A lot of them do it for attention and to make themselves feel busy, wanted, and like celebrities. Shıt's ridiculously outta control.
 

SgtSplacker

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Helps the way you ask them too, I try to make my requests count because I do not make many.

Instead of picking a date ask her if she wants to do something "this weekend" and get some input from her. Then if she flakes or for some reason can't find time you can be a little more decisive in cutting her AWing arse off...

I think that even if a girl is interested in you she might get turned off by repeated failed attempts... don't want her getting too used to telling you no.
 
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