Should i apologise after calling a girl im dating a wh#re after a arugment?

[Rake101]

I went off at a girl im dating called her ever name under the sun , should i alpogize?

 

[derby1]

you never ever apologise with the word "Sorry" to anyone apart from your mom or dad.

it is the equivalent of asking a dime, to teach you to read and write.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Depends why she was called every name under the sun

And as the guy above mentions you dont have to directly say sorry

 

[Robert28]

Why are you arguing with a woman and having shouting matches? You gotta be more in control of your emotions my man. You’ll never win those arguments and you’ll say stuff you regret anyways, it’s a lose lose situation.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Why are you arguing with a woman and having shouting matches? You gotta be more in control of your emotions my man. You’ll never win those arguments and you’ll say stuff you regret anyways, it’s a lose lose situation.

100000% bro, you gotta get that under control.

I myself was never aware of how I was being perceived because I'm used to being in tense situations, I can keep my cool, but even that, one time this chick was like "Don't hit me" or "Your not gonna hit me?" and it's easy to forget that we can align ourselves with the behavior of abusers and be perceived as one without abusing anybody.

 

[corrector]

Yeah, I remember saying these things to with my ex-wife and I she made me feel so bad that I couldn't find it in me to apologize because of the extent that I was demonized by her and her family. They make me feel like public enemy number one. Maybe your words are reactive to something. What was the argument about? You caught her red-handed banging another dude and argued with her or was it something else?

On principle, it's best to apologize unless you have a perfect train-wreck like in my case, in which case you can't really apologize since they just want to get rid of you.

 

[bat soup]

I went off at a girl im dating called her ever name under the sun , should i alpogize?

Only after she sucks your d1ck

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Stop having silly arguments and you wouldn't find yourself in this situation. Control yourself.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

I went off at a girl im dating called her ever name under the sun , should i alpogize?

You never apologize to a woman, except when you hurt her accidentially or when you break something that belongs to her.

 

[EyeBRollin]

You never apologize to a woman, except when you hurt her accidentially or when you break something that belongs to her.

No, this is poor advice. Apologizing is appropriate when you are in the wrong.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

No, this is poor advice. Apologizing is appropriate when you are in the wrong.

Nope.... if you do, you will be making up to her for the next weeks.

If you admit you were wrong and sorry they will weaponize it against you for years. Every now and then they will pull this old shiat out and tell you what an evil bastard you are for hurting her feelings like that and that you are doing it again just now by (insert random topic).

 

[HaleyBaron]

I went off at a girl im dating called her ever name under the sun , should i alpogize?

Years ago, when a girl on the side was getting fatter, she said during a conversation to not call her a fatass. So I mockingly called her a fatass, she got angry and left. I wasn't bothered cause I know I was right and I didn't care if she left. She returned a while later, and then had sex.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Nope.... if you do, you will be making up to her for the next weeks.

If you admit you were wrong and sorry they will weaponize it against you for years. Every now and then they will pull this old shiat out and tell you what an evil bastard you are for hurting her feelings like that and that you are doing it again just now by (insert random topic).

No, that’s not how it actually works. When a man fvcks up, he must take ownership. What we don’t do is apologize multiple times or grovel. Acknowledge it once then move on.

 

[Rake101]

Why are you arguing with a woman and having shouting matches? You gotta be more in control of your emotions my man. You’ll never win those arguments and you’ll say stuff you regret anyways, it’s a lose lose situation.

I know man .. i cant control my self sometimes i give in to my urges. I always make things worse because i put my self in a position where i have to alpogize or i burn the bridge in total and lose her. Were if i play it right i can avoid all that but i find it hard not to somtimes.

 

[Robert28]

I know man .. i cant control my self sometimes i give in to my urges. I always make things worse because i put my self in a position where i have to alpogize or i burn the bridge in total and lose her. Were if i play it right i can avoid all that but i find it hard not to somtimes.

Sometimes bridges need to be burned. You just have to know if it’s worth doing or not.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

I went off at a girl im dating called her ever name under the sun , should i alpogize?

Yes, more context would help to assess the situation. But in theory, apologizing when you are wrong is not a sign of weakness but rather the opposite. It shows intelligence and humility.

Modern Man Advice

 

[Barrister]

I went off at a girl im dating called her ever name under the sun , should i alpogize?

I agree with @Modern Man Advice here that we need more context. Was she sleeping around with multiple dudes while she is in an LTR with you? Because that may justify it (somewhat).

However, if you were just being an ass and calling her a wh0re because you were pissed at her, then yes, you should apologize and do it in a way where it is clear that you mean it. This is where "maintaining frame" comes into play. Don't ever lose your cool to the point where you are that emotional. You have then entered the woman's frame and it is a losing battle not just in the moment but the relationship at large.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

No, that’s not how it actually works. When a man fvcks up, he must take ownership. What we don’t do is apologize multiple times or grovel. Acknowledge it once then move on.

The thing is if you are acknowledging that you did something wrong, she does not have to move on from that; many times when I have done something dumb, apology, the second the apology is issued, the real conflict begins because youve now removed all doubt that your intention was to disrespect... She does not have to move on from that, in fact, I have found most will begin the manipulating guilt trip from here, look for something more or blow up the thing, whatever it might be, y'all have.

If you want to move on, then you just focus on that, revisiting rarely ends well in my experience. Yes, it is manipulative to not apologize, yes, it's wrong, but you've already done the wrong, the damage is done and sorry isn't going to fix it... Real men don't tell, they show (manipulative statement, do what you like)

 

[ThisIsSparta]

No, that’s not how it actually works. When a man fvcks up, he must take ownership. What we don’t do is apologize multiple times or grovel. Acknowledge it once then move on.

What i described is exactly how it works in a LTR.

Some of us have to play this TO WIN and not to "lets see what happens and if the plate still acts up after i appologized i dump her ass and date the other plate".

 

[BadBoy89]

When a man fvcks up, he must take ownership.

Disagree.

America is racist and corrupt, they don’t apologize. China likely started COVID-19, they don‘t apologize. America invaded Iraq, no apology, Dropped a nuclear bomb in Japan, no apology. Japan had tons of South Korean comfort women during WW2, no apology. Iran shut down a international plane, no apology. Russia annexed Crimea, no apology. America was built on slavery, no apology.

Once the people in charge of the free world, the people who control the money, the people who get all the hot young girls apologize, then I will apologize to some girl who has been f*cked 18 different ways from Sunday.