"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Should a solid man with experience tolerate this behavior from a wife or LTR?

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I'm curious why you think she was seeking male friends? I saw no evidence of that and I already explained her use of the neutral greeting "Hey guysss."

To ME, the way her message was worded sounded like a message on a "friends" app seeking female friends.

Just my read with such limited info and context.
the first three photo.
if its a girls only app, then ok.... if its not the message can and should specify girls only.

never seen a girl parade her body to attract other girls.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Disrespect to join a friends app to make new local female friends since she's new to the area?

Where's the disrespect?

I'm seriously not getting y'all's thought process about this. Perhaps someone could explain, I'm open!

Seems an awful lot of negative assumptions are being made here. SMH
if you could read the mind of men, you would have no more questions.
 

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Disrespect to join a friends app to make new local female friends since she's new to the area?

Where's the disrespect?

I'm seriously not getting y'all's thought process about this. Perhaps someone could explain, I'm open!

Seems an awful lot of negative assumptions are being made here. SMH
It's innocent until it isn't...

Best argument is: where hubby at? Tatty hanging out, hot pants. And as mentioned before, 22, thirst trapping.

This indicates how fast some women get bored. A bored woman imo is a danger to her man. She should get a life.
 

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In none she included the blindsided husband just to reinforce some boundaries.
I'm with Giovanni on this one. AW behavior on a social media platform full of single 20 somethings with provocative photos (and no husband in the photos either)....
I didn’t think this post was going to get any traction. I found that post at random on a FB group of local people in their 20s looking for friendships and connections in my city. Literally the group is called “San Diego 20s”.
She said she's married in the first sentence of her post! What's the logic in adding a photo with her husband? These people won't believe I'm 21 and already married so I'd better post a picture with my husband and the marriage certificate? :rolleyes:

All I see in that post is that she's looking to connect with people the same age, potential job offers or future school colleagues. For all we know, her husband was lying in bed next to her while she posted that. So I don't get where this assumption that he's blindsided or a dumb money mule comes from.
Terribly disrespectful to her husband, who is probably clueless and swamped at work.
 

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Totally inappropriate with boobs hanging out. I mean at least dress conservatively for God's sake.
^^Fair point BE. I just took another look and agree with you about that. Honestly I didn't put it together initially.

And the additional context that it's a San Diego FB ''connections" group (which we didn't know originally); I live in SD and know how those work.

I don't think she's looking to cheat however it could be a "thirst trap" for male attention, especially with the two photos showing her breasts, those pics were not necessary to make female friends.

I may have been projecting a bit as well as MY motive for doing what she did would be to make female friends; but yeah the photos are out of place for seeking only female friends. And the fact it's FB connections.

I see it now and appreciate the additional context!

See told y'all I was open!

Thanks guysss! Lol :D
 
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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Call me delusional, but I think the post was created by a catfish or a bot.
At first glance I thought that as well but going into her profile she was indeed that person. Pinpointing public local places she was at that I know of and more pictures of her. A few other married / LTR women posting similar posts. Chicks are bored out there.
 
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All people have a natural tendency towards giving in to temptation. Fidelity is a very difficult thing to achieve, that's why it's so coveted. The best way to ensure a faithful relationship/marriage is for each person to remove themselves where temptation can occur. If you're not willing to do that, then why even be married? Just stay single.

It takes real strength to put your foot down and deny your Itr/wife the freedom she used to enjoy when she was single
.. an example of what happens when a Typical Hoe On Tinder gets wifed up: she's still addicted to the dopamine hits of hundreds of thirsty followers.

Seen it at work, about half of the twentysomethings are using dating apps, yet most are already in committed relationships, go figure..
This means that they're still seeking validation, except for those times when it becomes real.
At least one of my colleagues has ruined her marriage this way.
 

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I think its OK. The girl is only 21, she is looking for some friends, some people to talk to.

The only issue I see is she says "I'm married" and has 0 rings on her finger. Other than that, its fine.

Sosuave loves living in 1955 instead of 2025.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Tolerate from “gf”? Yes, because gf and bf means little.

Tolerate from my wife, the mother of my kids? No fookin’ way!
 
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