"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Shoudl I Wait?

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Alright, well I have this girl who likes me. Probably a Seven.

-I like her, but not that much.

-She has a brother that could kill me.

My problem, you see, is that I don't want to take her to Homecoming.

October 12th. I would like to get a girlfriend for awhile, but my timeline is a little hazy.

Is there a way I can ask her out. Fool around.

Then seperate before Homecoming without getting maimed or making things akward?

Before finally asking another girl to Homecoming lol...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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haha dude, my advice is forget about her if you're afraid of her brother. you'll be setting yourself up with more possible doubts/downsides.
but if you find you really want her as a girlfriend, I see no reason in not wanting to take her to homecoming, so just go for it.
 

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no I'm saying he shouldn't go out of his way just because of some girls brother.
 

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Let me rephrase. Brothers. She has a lot of them.

She likes me alot already and I haven't even made any moves.

I don't see her becoming unattached in the time period.

What I'd like to do is ask her out, fool around, get her to lose interest, break up mutually.

I don't see it happening though. Speak more of this AFCness.
 

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Alkali said:
get her to lose interest
if you're clingy and stuff to her and act like you're totally in love, she'll lose interest in you and you'll get rid of each other.

don't even think about her brothers... they mean nothing.

if you wanna do it, make a move, and if not, thats ok. Problem solved by just dropping it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I know it because thats all I've done before and I'm tryin to do the opposite but am having bad luck :p
 

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Sorry guys, I'm taking the ***** way out. Just acting like nothing ever happened.

She'll catch on eventually, right?
 

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No lol you'll just make her feel bad, and she could become angry at you, depending on what kind of a person she is.

LJBF her.
 
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