"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Shoudl I Wait?

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Alright, well I have this girl who likes me. Probably a Seven.

-I like her, but not that much.

-She has a brother that could kill me.

My problem, you see, is that I don't want to take her to Homecoming.

October 12th. I would like to get a girlfriend for awhile, but my timeline is a little hazy.

Is there a way I can ask her out. Fool around.

Then seperate before Homecoming without getting maimed or making things akward?

Before finally asking another girl to Homecoming lol...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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haha dude, my advice is forget about her if you're afraid of her brother. you'll be setting yourself up with more possible doubts/downsides.
but if you find you really want her as a girlfriend, I see no reason in not wanting to take her to homecoming, so just go for it.
 

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no I'm saying he shouldn't go out of his way just because of some girls brother.
 

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Let me rephrase. Brothers. She has a lot of them.

She likes me alot already and I haven't even made any moves.

I don't see her becoming unattached in the time period.

What I'd like to do is ask her out, fool around, get her to lose interest, break up mutually.

I don't see it happening though. Speak more of this AFCness.
 

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Alkali said:
get her to lose interest
if you're clingy and stuff to her and act like you're totally in love, she'll lose interest in you and you'll get rid of each other.

don't even think about her brothers... they mean nothing.

if you wanna do it, make a move, and if not, thats ok. Problem solved by just dropping it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I know it because thats all I've done before and I'm tryin to do the opposite but am having bad luck :p
 

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Sorry guys, I'm taking the ***** way out. Just acting like nothing ever happened.

She'll catch on eventually, right?
 

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No lol you'll just make her feel bad, and she could become angry at you, depending on what kind of a person she is.

LJBF her.
 
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