"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Alright, well I have this girl who likes me. Probably a Seven.

-I like her, but not that much.

-She has a brother that could kill me.

My problem, you see, is that I don't want to take her to Homecoming.

October 12th. I would like to get a girlfriend for awhile, but my timeline is a little hazy.

Is there a way I can ask her out. Fool around.

Then seperate before Homecoming without getting maimed or making things akward?

Before finally asking another girl to Homecoming lol...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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haha dude, my advice is forget about her if you're afraid of her brother. you'll be setting yourself up with more possible doubts/downsides.
but if you find you really want her as a girlfriend, I see no reason in not wanting to take her to homecoming, so just go for it.
 

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no I'm saying he shouldn't go out of his way just because of some girls brother.
 

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Let me rephrase. Brothers. She has a lot of them.

She likes me alot already and I haven't even made any moves.

I don't see her becoming unattached in the time period.

What I'd like to do is ask her out, fool around, get her to lose interest, break up mutually.

I don't see it happening though. Speak more of this AFCness.
 

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Alkali said:
get her to lose interest
if you're clingy and stuff to her and act like you're totally in love, she'll lose interest in you and you'll get rid of each other.

don't even think about her brothers... they mean nothing.

if you wanna do it, make a move, and if not, thats ok. Problem solved by just dropping it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I know it because thats all I've done before and I'm tryin to do the opposite but am having bad luck :p
 

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Sorry guys, I'm taking the ***** way out. Just acting like nothing ever happened.

She'll catch on eventually, right?
 

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No lol you'll just make her feel bad, and she could become angry at you, depending on what kind of a person she is.

LJBF her.
 
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