"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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She's still on her ex's social media. Time to worry?

vanballmoos

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Let me preface this by saying I hate social media.

A good friend of mine set me up with his SO’s friend. We met about 1.5 months ago. We seem to be hitting it off. The issue is, upon finding out, my friend told me she likes every other picture her ex has posted. They broke up in early October. I do know he broke up with her and shortly tried to reconcile, she said no, but then later told him she was struggling with the breakup and he said he was too. Also, they had also discussed marriage and kids.

I’m trying to tell myself it’s just her liking the content. She’ll like her other ex’s pictures too, but he’s from years ago. She’ll even like pictures of old flings that didn’t work out, so maybe she’s just weird?

It wasn’t until recently that my friend’s SO really gave me the details about their breakup- none of which my friend knew prior to setting me up. So apparently after she turned him away she was blowing up his phone saying stuff like the breakup really messed with her, how she wanted to stay but couldn’t. Then a little later the I’m having a hard time message followed. Also, my friend is under the impression that she tried to make him jealous (I don’t agree). She snapped a video of her food and then showed the guy she was on a date with then posted it on social media. This was a few weeks after telling him that she was struggling. Not quite sure showing off your date on social media means you're trying to make someone jealous though.

Anyway, he told her he was hurt but loved her enough to be happy for her to be moving on. She replied with a question mark, and he said your video that you posted. She told him how she loved him very much but they just argued a lot and have issues. Then sent him another message saying it’s not wise to give out information about what may or may not be going on her dating life. He said he wasn’t asking but wished her all the best. She then liked his picture a few days later and I was told she was looking at his social media. This last part happened in November. She’s still liking his stuff now.

Either way should I be worried? I’m fairly interested, but it’s more so I just don’t want to get burned again. I just don’t want to potentially invest in something down the line if there may be a red flag.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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next. you lost a sense of self respect because shes your only source of sex. been there done that. its always the same story men are MORE forgiving for bs behavior and keep their partner for sex instead of throwing him out
 

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She’s only two months out of that relationship. Put her on your back burner for now until she’s recovered and fully ready for a new one.
Anything this soon smells like rebound with her trying to prove to her ex that she’s still desirable and can maybe move on faster.
 
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Women like an ex's posts because they want the ex to make a move, then claim it wasn't her that started it. In this case, she's overtly still thinking about him daily, acting in a way that will provoke his feelings and thoughts, and basically, you're the 3rd wheel. Time to unhook and roll on.
 

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Women like an ex's posts because they want the ex to make a move, then claim it wasn't her that started it. In this case, she's overtly still thinking about him daily, acting in a way that will provoke his feelings and thoughts, and basically, you're the 3rd wheel. Time to unhook and roll on.
So you think only women do this? Would you say the same thing if this was a guy in this post?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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So you think only women do this? Would you say the same thing if this was a guy in this post?
The fundamental fact in the differences between men and women is that they think and act differently…
Read the DJ bible
 
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You are the rebound. Keep her around for sex, minimally attach feelings. Don't tell me I didn't tell you.
 

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You are the rebound. Keep her around for sex, minimally attach feelings. Don't tell me I didn't tell you.
Why do you say that? If she rejected his reconciliation and she’s going out on dates that means she’s moving on.
 

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What do I get from all of this?

1.) She doesnt get over her past relationships very easy.

2.) The ex knows how to fvck with her head better than you do

3.) At some point the back and forth texts of reasoning between them will turn into him fvcking the shyte out of her, leaving her again, wash/rince/repeat. Some women just like being treated that way.

4.) I wouldnt stick around with someone who was still giving attention to her past lovers on social media. Its a major red flag....No thanks. I would start cold shouldering this chick. Turn her into a fvck buddy, meanwhile looking elsewhere for someone who is more worthy of relationship status.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Why do you say that? If she rejected his reconciliation and she’s going out on dates that means she’s moving on.
Yep. Keep banging her but start looking for someone who is more trustworthy. Treat her like a FWB and start slowly withdrawing attention. Never bring up why you are acting differently. She will either figure it out and straighten up or you will fvck her until you find someone better.

Whalla.
 

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Yep. Keep banging her but start looking for someone who is more trustworthy. Treat her like a FWB and start slowly withdrawing attention. Never bring up why you are acting differently. She will either figure it out and straighten up or you will fvck her until you find someone better.

Whalla.
She’s not even close to moving on OP. You can fvck and date around and it doesn’t mean anything. She still wants her and ex and he still wants her. She rejected his reconciliation because she was butt hurt he broke up with her. She’s dating around to stay busy-not because she’s genuinely interested in moving on.
 

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Let me preface this by saying I hate social media.

A good friend of mine set me up with his SO’s friend. We met about 1.5 months ago. We seem to be hitting it off. The issue is, upon finding out, my friend told me she likes every other picture her ex has posted. They broke up in early October. I do know he broke up with her and shortly tried to reconcile, she said no, but then later told him she was struggling with the breakup and he said he was too. Also, they had also discussed marriage and kids.

I’m trying to tell myself it’s just her liking the content. She’ll like her other ex’s pictures too, but he’s from years ago. She’ll even like pictures of old flings that didn’t work out, so maybe she’s just weird?

It wasn’t until recently that my friend’s SO really gave me the details about their breakup- none of which my friend knew prior to setting me up. So apparently after she turned him away she was blowing up his phone saying stuff like the breakup really messed with her, how she wanted to stay but couldn’t. Then a little later the I’m having a hard time message followed. Also, my friend is under the impression that she tried to make him jealous (I don’t agree). She snapped a video of her food and then showed the guy she was on a date with then posted it on social media. This was a few weeks after telling him that she was struggling. Not quite sure showing off your date on social media means you're trying to make someone jealous though.

Anyway, he told her he was hurt but loved her enough to be happy for her to be moving on. She replied with a question mark, and he said your video that you posted. She told him how she loved him very much but they just argued a lot and have issues. Then sent him another message saying it’s not wise to give out information about what may or may not be going on her dating life. He said he wasn’t asking but wished her all the best. She then liked his picture a few days later and I was told she was looking at his social media. This last part happened in November. She’s still liking his stuff now.

Either way should I be worried? I’m fairly interested, but it’s more so I just don’t want to get burned again. I just don’t want to potentially invest in something down the line if there may be a red flag.
You have known this girl a couple of months, she should be nothing more than a plate in your rotation,

You are worrying over a relationship that haven't even started. That is her job not yours. If she isn't worrying over a relationship or bugging you for one then she just stays a plate in your rotation
 

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Why do you say that? If she rejected his reconciliation and she’s going out on dates that means she’s moving on.
Until she misses him

Remember women use feelings to make Their decisions. Not rational thought. She rejected him on Monday and stood her ground. By Wednesday she could miss him.
 

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Until she misses him

Remember women use feelings to make Their decisions. Not rational thought. She rejected him on Monday and stood her ground. By Wednesday she could miss him.
This.

My guess is she already does. If she’s trying to make him jealous AND she was still responding to his messages she still wants him.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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This.

My guess is she already does. If she’s trying to make him jealous AND she was still responding to his messages she still wants him.
Like I said in my post I’m not quite sure how showing off your date on social media means you're trying to make someone jealous.
 

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You know way too much information for your own good. I never wanna know anything about another guy. Out of sight out of mind
 

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You know way too much information for your own good. I never wanna know anything about another guy. Out of sight out of mind
Maybe so, but it’s kind of a good thing I know all of this stuff though right?
 

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I hope you didn't put her in first place. You sure aren't first place, better find her replacement.
 

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Her ex is on the top of her high score list and your not. She should be nothing more then a plate. Keep banging her and stop worrying about who's pics she's liking on social media. When you believe you are a womens best option, you won't care about other guys. Other guys should be no concern to you as long as she's giving up the pVssy.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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