She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Yes, if he does that, he definintely does not appear to be a player.Originally posted by PiHiPlaya
Yeah right... get in her pants, then next her.
Youre a dumbass, just because a girl thinks youre a player doesnt mean sh!t. A lot of girls i know think im a player cause of how i look and act i guess, but that doesnt mean a damn thing. I have two rubber bands that say player and respect. To mean it means nothing, but to girls its a little indicator i guess. I was chilling with this girl and she say them and say some stupid thing. But did that matter?? No!! Later we were outside making out, talking about how many people that we've had sex with. So...in conclusion, dont listen to this guy and play the field, she come around.Originally posted by 08aisaac
Ah you are also from Ky. I would just denie all accusations and NEXT her.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Excuses...Originally posted by 08aisaac
I haven't been outside of my house n like a week. Mom is always at work and can't drive me anywhere because I am always asleep. All of this isolation is messing with my good judgement. Maybe I'll go to a library.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
It really doesnt...unless you suck...youd be suprisedOriginally posted by Jerky Boi
You wouldn't want a girl to label you as a player. I mean yea, it doesn't really matter, but if you're wanting to hook up with her, it kinda does.
Originally posted by MVP?¥?JI€GALO
any idea on whats goin on? cus i just told her im not a player n that i just ant like other guys she meet in tha past.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.