Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Yes, if he does that, he definintely does not appear to be a player.Originally posted by PiHiPlaya
Yeah right... get in her pants, then next her.
Youre a dumbass, just because a girl thinks youre a player doesnt mean sh!t. A lot of girls i know think im a player cause of how i look and act i guess, but that doesnt mean a damn thing. I have two rubber bands that say player and respect. To mean it means nothing, but to girls its a little indicator i guess. I was chilling with this girl and she say them and say some stupid thing. But did that matter?? No!! Later we were outside making out, talking about how many people that we've had sex with. So...in conclusion, dont listen to this guy and play the field, she come around.Originally posted by 08aisaac
Ah you are also from Ky. I would just denie all accusations and NEXT her.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Excuses...Originally posted by 08aisaac
I haven't been outside of my house n like a week. Mom is always at work and can't drive me anywhere because I am always asleep. All of this isolation is messing with my good judgement. Maybe I'll go to a library.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
It really doesnt...unless you suck...youd be suprisedOriginally posted by Jerky Boi
You wouldn't want a girl to label you as a player. I mean yea, it doesn't really matter, but if you're wanting to hook up with her, it kinda does.
Originally posted by MVP?¥?JI€GALO
any idea on whats goin on? cus i just told her im not a player n that i just ant like other guys she meet in tha past.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.