"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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She's Got Issues and I'm Gonna Pay.

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Hey everyone... I have a situation for you.

Has anyone dated a girl for a decent amount of time (6+ months) who didn't like to be touched or show any affection whatsoever? Because I am.

She hates holding hands, making out, cuddling, or showing any signs of intimacy. I don't understand what's going on with her.. I think something happened to her in the past but I'm not quite sure what? She always says that I'm too affectionate and that I need to 'calm down'.

If anyone has dealt with someone like this in the past, please help me out here. I'm thinking about walking away but I want to hear a few independent opinions before I do so.

Thanks!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The only time this has ever happened to me was when she lost interest or the relationship became dull and boring. Other than that problem, are you guys arguing a lot? Do you still frequently have sex? Are you seeing each other too much?
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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Industry said:
..Has anyone dated a girl for a decent amount of time (6+ months) who didn't like to be touched or show any affection whatsoever? Because I am...
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Why???? :confused:
 
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Probably had some sexual abuse in her past.

If not that she's one of those asexual people and you need to run like the wind lol.
 
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Maybe like me she is just narcissistic. It is pretty normal for a narcissistic type person to no want intimacy.

P.S. Usually people who have been sexually abused (at a young age) act out sexually or stray towards a more deviant path.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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To me it sounds like the perfect relationship, sex with no intimacy. Certain people crave that kind of relationship. Personally I do not like a girl hugging and kissing me but I like having sex with them. After the sex I am not interested in the intimacy.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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