"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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She's Got Issues and I'm Gonna Pay.

Industry

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Hey everyone... I have a situation for you.

Has anyone dated a girl for a decent amount of time (6+ months) who didn't like to be touched or show any affection whatsoever? Because I am.

She hates holding hands, making out, cuddling, or showing any signs of intimacy. I don't understand what's going on with her.. I think something happened to her in the past but I'm not quite sure what? She always says that I'm too affectionate and that I need to 'calm down'.

If anyone has dealt with someone like this in the past, please help me out here. I'm thinking about walking away but I want to hear a few independent opinions before I do so.

Thanks!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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foomee

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The only time this has ever happened to me was when she lost interest or the relationship became dull and boring. Other than that problem, are you guys arguing a lot? Do you still frequently have sex? Are you seeing each other too much?
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Industry said:
..Has anyone dated a girl for a decent amount of time (6+ months) who didn't like to be touched or show any affection whatsoever? Because I am...
Why???? :confused:
 

KontrollerX

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Probably had some sexual abuse in her past.

If not that she's one of those asexual people and you need to run like the wind lol.
 

NickBe

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Maybe like me she is just narcissistic. It is pretty normal for a narcissistic type person to no want intimacy.

P.S. Usually people who have been sexually abused (at a young age) act out sexually or stray towards a more deviant path.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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NickBe

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To me it sounds like the perfect relationship, sex with no intimacy. Certain people crave that kind of relationship. Personally I do not like a girl hugging and kissing me but I like having sex with them. After the sex I am not interested in the intimacy.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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