"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Industry

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Hey everyone... I have a situation for you.

Has anyone dated a girl for a decent amount of time (6+ months) who didn't like to be touched or show any affection whatsoever? Because I am.

She hates holding hands, making out, cuddling, or showing any signs of intimacy. I don't understand what's going on with her.. I think something happened to her in the past but I'm not quite sure what? She always says that I'm too affectionate and that I need to 'calm down'.

If anyone has dealt with someone like this in the past, please help me out here. I'm thinking about walking away but I want to hear a few independent opinions before I do so.

Thanks!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The only time this has ever happened to me was when she lost interest or the relationship became dull and boring. Other than that problem, are you guys arguing a lot? Do you still frequently have sex? Are you seeing each other too much?
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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Industry said:
..Has anyone dated a girl for a decent amount of time (6+ months) who didn't like to be touched or show any affection whatsoever? Because I am...
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Why???? :confused:
 
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Probably had some sexual abuse in her past.

If not that she's one of those asexual people and you need to run like the wind lol.
 
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Maybe like me she is just narcissistic. It is pretty normal for a narcissistic type person to no want intimacy.

P.S. Usually people who have been sexually abused (at a young age) act out sexually or stray towards a more deviant path.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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To me it sounds like the perfect relationship, sex with no intimacy. Certain people crave that kind of relationship. Personally I do not like a girl hugging and kissing me but I like having sex with them. After the sex I am not interested in the intimacy.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

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