I have been seeing a girl for about 2 months, want to dive into another relationship right away because I'm just out a 2 year relationship. The girl I am seeing( or sleeping with ) was fine with me until she said the reason I dont want a relationship is because I still have feelings for my ex. This is entirly false so a week later I said to her I might consider having a relationship with you. Now she is not really paying attention to me, not phoning or texting, I dont wanna plague her with texts or phone calls because obviously that would be the wrong thing to do, she has msn and i occasionally talk to her on that. Any idea if i should just ignore her completly or ask why shes acting like this, any suggestions welcomed.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Shes gone cold.
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
mistermarc
Don Juan
by going back a week after and telling her that u might consider a relationship was was **** u up. u making it look as if u only doing that cuz u feel sorry for her in some way even tho it may not be so. now u say she isnt paying u any attention...so what...do the same for her...ignore the *****'s ass, hook up wit a new girl maybe, make it look like u are capable of going about normally without her...then u'll see how fast she runs back trying to initiate a lil sumtin sumtin.
Marlimus
Senior Don Juan
--------WARNING: TOUGH LOVE----------
You acted like a little b!tch. You told her that you were just out of a two lear relationship and that you didn't want to dive into anything, a perfectly valid reason. Her insecurities act up so she says some sh!t about you having feelings for her ex, so you say you would consider having a relationship with her just to appease her even though you have done NOTHING WRONG. That shows no spine. Now she knows that she can manipulate you, which is what she is doing right now.
Do not contact her again until she tries to contact you. When she does,
tell her that she is acting like an immature little brat and that if this is how she handles things then perhaps she is not relationship material. If she goes cold again, NEXT.
You acted like a little b!tch. You told her that you were just out of a two lear relationship and that you didn't want to dive into anything, a perfectly valid reason. Her insecurities act up so she says some sh!t about you having feelings for her ex, so you say you would consider having a relationship with her just to appease her even though you have done NOTHING WRONG. That shows no spine. Now she knows that she can manipulate you, which is what she is doing right now.
Do not contact her again until she tries to contact you. When she does,
tell her that she is acting like an immature little brat and that if this is how she handles things then perhaps she is not relationship material. If she goes cold again, NEXT.
With most girls, focus on her actions, and not what they say. I think she's saying one thing, while meaning another.
If she is giving you the cold shoulder, she might not want a relationship at all. maybe in teh past 2 months she was thinking that it was leading up to a relationship and thats not what she wanted. So she tried to throw a guilt trip on you so that she can avoid the blame of breaking up.
If she's giving you the cold shoulder, while you're obviously telling her there are no feelings, there's a damn good chance she might have lost interest in you.
I could be wrong, but its a definite possibility.
If she is giving you the cold shoulder, she might not want a relationship at all. maybe in teh past 2 months she was thinking that it was leading up to a relationship and thats not what she wanted. So she tried to throw a guilt trip on you so that she can avoid the blame of breaking up.
If she's giving you the cold shoulder, while you're obviously telling her there are no feelings, there's a damn good chance she might have lost interest in you.
I could be wrong, but its a definite possibility.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Marlimus
Senior Don Juan
...by not trying to get it back. move on.