I have been seeing a girl for about 2 months, want to dive into another relationship right away because I'm just out a 2 year relationship. The girl I am seeing( or sleeping with ) was fine with me until she said the reason I dont want a relationship is because I still have feelings for my ex. This is entirly false so a week later I said to her I might consider having a relationship with you. Now she is not really paying attention to me, not phoning or texting, I dont wanna plague her with texts or phone calls because obviously that would be the wrong thing to do, she has msn and i occasionally talk to her on that. Any idea if i should just ignore her completly or ask why shes acting like this, any suggestions welcomed.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Shes gone cold.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
mistermarc
Don Juan
by going back a week after and telling her that u might consider a relationship was was **** u up. u making it look as if u only doing that cuz u feel sorry for her in some way even tho it may not be so. now u say she isnt paying u any attention...so what...do the same for her...ignore the *****'s ass, hook up wit a new girl maybe, make it look like u are capable of going about normally without her...then u'll see how fast she runs back trying to initiate a lil sumtin sumtin.
Marlimus
Senior Don Juan
--------WARNING: TOUGH LOVE----------
You acted like a little b!tch. You told her that you were just out of a two lear relationship and that you didn't want to dive into anything, a perfectly valid reason. Her insecurities act up so she says some sh!t about you having feelings for her ex, so you say you would consider having a relationship with her just to appease her even though you have done NOTHING WRONG. That shows no spine. Now she knows that she can manipulate you, which is what she is doing right now.
Do not contact her again until she tries to contact you. When she does,
tell her that she is acting like an immature little brat and that if this is how she handles things then perhaps she is not relationship material. If she goes cold again, NEXT.
You acted like a little b!tch. You told her that you were just out of a two lear relationship and that you didn't want to dive into anything, a perfectly valid reason. Her insecurities act up so she says some sh!t about you having feelings for her ex, so you say you would consider having a relationship with her just to appease her even though you have done NOTHING WRONG. That shows no spine. Now she knows that she can manipulate you, which is what she is doing right now.
Do not contact her again until she tries to contact you. When she does,
tell her that she is acting like an immature little brat and that if this is how she handles things then perhaps she is not relationship material. If she goes cold again, NEXT.
With most girls, focus on her actions, and not what they say. I think she's saying one thing, while meaning another.
If she is giving you the cold shoulder, she might not want a relationship at all. maybe in teh past 2 months she was thinking that it was leading up to a relationship and thats not what she wanted. So she tried to throw a guilt trip on you so that she can avoid the blame of breaking up.
If she's giving you the cold shoulder, while you're obviously telling her there are no feelings, there's a damn good chance she might have lost interest in you.
I could be wrong, but its a definite possibility.
If she is giving you the cold shoulder, she might not want a relationship at all. maybe in teh past 2 months she was thinking that it was leading up to a relationship and thats not what she wanted. So she tried to throw a guilt trip on you so that she can avoid the blame of breaking up.
If she's giving you the cold shoulder, while you're obviously telling her there are no feelings, there's a damn good chance she might have lost interest in you.
I could be wrong, but its a definite possibility.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Marlimus
Senior Don Juan
...by not trying to get it back. move on.