"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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She's coming with a friend to our "blind" date, good or bad?

DJDamage

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I am calling B.S on the bringing a friend for safety, its a sign of low interest in my book.

You being on the internet were not able to establish real attraction and therefore she has reservations about you. In the real world chicks go to a club, get wasted and then hook up with a guy they just met 15 mins ago and end up going to their place for ONS. All of the sudden the fears of psycho ex murder/rapist flies out the window - WHY IS THAT? because when a woman is highly attracted to a man she will often take big risks to achieve her own happiness (she is hostage to her own emotions). You meeting her in a public place is not considered a big risk and therefore its B.S.

Now instead of focusing your attention on one chick you now have to do on two at the same time! if she likes you and her friend doesn't, you better believe that her friend will try to c0ckblock and sabotage the date. Those two already had a pre-arrange conversation saying that one of them will rescue the other if they find you to be a creep or boring.

SARGE IN THE REAL WORLD AND DON"T DO BLIND DATES OR GO OUT WITH CHICKS THAT CLAIM THEY NEED A BUDDY SYSTEM!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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DJDamage said:
SARGE IN THE REAL WORLD AND DON"T DO BLIND DATES OR GO OUT WITH CHICKS THAT CLAIM THEY NEED A BUDDY SYSTEM!
This should be a "Man Law." :up:

Maybe even add it to the list of DJ commandments.
 

backbreaker

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yeah, nothing screams "I don't think of you sexually" like I'm bringing a buddy.

your GF doesn't need a Buddy over the house when she wants to blow you does she?
 
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