"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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shes clearly not interested, gave me email?

big weezy

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i just tried picking up this girl in starbucks just now.. turns out she spent the past 3 years back in my families country which threw me off my game as i got too excited.

anyway i f'd up the first 5 mins of convo and she was like 'i need to get back to my application'

then she packed up after 5 mins.. and i tried attempting to engage convo with her to attract her to make up for my poor showing first time round. was under time pressure tho. negged a bit.

anyway i suggested we get together.. and then she gives me the whole fake number thing.. how should u react to this? i knew what she was doing but didnt want to say anything.. felt agrieved tho.

what should u do when she gives u a fake number and u call it and it fails? i told her.. 'it doesn't work' then shes like 'give me yours' i generally dont want to give my number out to girls cos i know that means they're not interested. but i wrote it down anyway. maybe i shoulda said 'its cool dont worry i'll see u around' cos by giving my number she knows im interested still, but saying no then she'll feel shes lost me even if she doesnt want me.

she then proceeds to give me her email saying 'i dont do phones..' im like 'what? how do u not do phones..' she had a phone out on the table with her i saw and she goes 'i didnt bring my phone' i didnt say anythign about seeing it i dont know if theres any point really.. she gives me her email and goes 'i dont do phones i do email' i go 'you're making this very difficult' then i go 'well i dont do email'

she said bye but i didnt really acknowledge her in more than a friendly way.

not interested. my fault for not gaming her properly. i might as well throw away this email address, shes lying to me that she didn't have a phone.. should i have said something about seeing 1 on her table just before?

its just insulting my intelligence really.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Mr. Suave

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Haha what are you worried about? You should just be pleased with yourself for trying. Also honestly I would have just taken her email and left, not said much more. If she doesn't want to give up her number there's no need to make a big deal about it, to be honest it's not like the phone is some magical type of conversation device. Most people just text now anyway so it really isn't much different.

You should've got her email, sent her a message on there and see what happens, sounds like you got a bit stand off-ish which you shouldn't have done. If she doesn't get back to you on e-mail it doesn't matter too much but I would've tried it.
 

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she's proven herself to be a pain in the rear

Women in general are difficult enough to deal with, why try to get with one of the more glaring examples?
 

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With 99% of your pickups happening at Starbucks, man I hope you're not a coffee drinker.

That Starbucks stuff would make me jittery and nervous just talking to my mom.

Maybe you should find a bar to hang out or something. A place with depressants and not stimulants.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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