"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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shes clearly not interested, gave me email?

big weezy

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i just tried picking up this girl in starbucks just now.. turns out she spent the past 3 years back in my families country which threw me off my game as i got too excited.

anyway i f'd up the first 5 mins of convo and she was like 'i need to get back to my application'

then she packed up after 5 mins.. and i tried attempting to engage convo with her to attract her to make up for my poor showing first time round. was under time pressure tho. negged a bit.

anyway i suggested we get together.. and then she gives me the whole fake number thing.. how should u react to this? i knew what she was doing but didnt want to say anything.. felt agrieved tho.

what should u do when she gives u a fake number and u call it and it fails? i told her.. 'it doesn't work' then shes like 'give me yours' i generally dont want to give my number out to girls cos i know that means they're not interested. but i wrote it down anyway. maybe i shoulda said 'its cool dont worry i'll see u around' cos by giving my number she knows im interested still, but saying no then she'll feel shes lost me even if she doesnt want me.

she then proceeds to give me her email saying 'i dont do phones..' im like 'what? how do u not do phones..' she had a phone out on the table with her i saw and she goes 'i didnt bring my phone' i didnt say anythign about seeing it i dont know if theres any point really.. she gives me her email and goes 'i dont do phones i do email' i go 'you're making this very difficult' then i go 'well i dont do email'

she said bye but i didnt really acknowledge her in more than a friendly way.

not interested. my fault for not gaming her properly. i might as well throw away this email address, shes lying to me that she didn't have a phone.. should i have said something about seeing 1 on her table just before?

its just insulting my intelligence really.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Mr. Suave

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Haha what are you worried about? You should just be pleased with yourself for trying. Also honestly I would have just taken her email and left, not said much more. If she doesn't want to give up her number there's no need to make a big deal about it, to be honest it's not like the phone is some magical type of conversation device. Most people just text now anyway so it really isn't much different.

You should've got her email, sent her a message on there and see what happens, sounds like you got a bit stand off-ish which you shouldn't have done. If she doesn't get back to you on e-mail it doesn't matter too much but I would've tried it.
 

Aaron B

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she's proven herself to be a pain in the rear

Women in general are difficult enough to deal with, why try to get with one of the more glaring examples?
 

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With 99% of your pickups happening at Starbucks, man I hope you're not a coffee drinker.

That Starbucks stuff would make me jittery and nervous just talking to my mom.

Maybe you should find a bar to hang out or something. A place with depressants and not stimulants.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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