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Don Juan
- Joined
- Apr 10, 2018
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- 33
Hey DJs,
I've been seeing this girl for the past 3 months.
Humble, sweet, loving, and giving - treats me very well and is always compliant.
However, she has admitted to having serious insecurity issues (which she has been working on to resolve) and also anxiety issues.
I have been trying to keep my effort and investment as minimal as I can so as to not "truly" fall for her.
She has been chasing me all this while doing 80-90% of the pursuing. Many of her texts go unanswered for hours and days.
The reason for this is that - i've had a feeling that this girl is still caught up with her past. She has only had 1 "real" relationship so far and it ONLY LASTED 5 MONTHS. The guy was an ******* - basically played HIS REAL GIRLFRIEND WITH HER and illusioned her into "having a relationship". Well you can imagine - she felt horrible and I believe this really caused her insecurities to grow and her anxiety to worsen.
so today she added to her pinterest board:
and another quote was "we repeat what we don't repair"
the thing is she confuses me too.
why would someone caught up in her past chase me like she does?
like a text from her lastnight:
how would you go about this? do you try to bring it up to her in conversation or next her or just enjoy it while it lasts?
TAKEAWAY: I also might just be projecting my own playing games with this girl. It could be that since I am very inconsistent with her (sending mixed signals) she is emoting and frustrated at me and this is remind her of her past. What was then and what is now.
She might be feeling that I am or will be just like her ex boyfriend and cheat on her or dump her. Since I ignore her a lot, she might be on the brink of auto rejection.
thanks!
I've been seeing this girl for the past 3 months.
Humble, sweet, loving, and giving - treats me very well and is always compliant.
However, she has admitted to having serious insecurity issues (which she has been working on to resolve) and also anxiety issues.
I have been trying to keep my effort and investment as minimal as I can so as to not "truly" fall for her.
She has been chasing me all this while doing 80-90% of the pursuing. Many of her texts go unanswered for hours and days.
The reason for this is that - i've had a feeling that this girl is still caught up with her past. She has only had 1 "real" relationship so far and it ONLY LASTED 5 MONTHS. The guy was an ******* - basically played HIS REAL GIRLFRIEND WITH HER and illusioned her into "having a relationship". Well you can imagine - she felt horrible and I believe this really caused her insecurities to grow and her anxiety to worsen.
so today she added to her pinterest board:
and another quote was "we repeat what we don't repair"
the thing is she confuses me too.
why would someone caught up in her past chase me like she does?
like a text from her lastnight:
how would you go about this? do you try to bring it up to her in conversation or next her or just enjoy it while it lasts?
TAKEAWAY: I also might just be projecting my own playing games with this girl. It could be that since I am very inconsistent with her (sending mixed signals) she is emoting and frustrated at me and this is remind her of her past. What was then and what is now.
She might be feeling that I am or will be just like her ex boyfriend and cheat on her or dump her. Since I ignore her a lot, she might be on the brink of auto rejection.
thanks!
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