"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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REPEM

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So I ask this girl out tonight.

She's already out when I asked her.

I know a girl will make herself available if shes interested but it's understandable if she's already out.

But she didnt give a "tommorow" or "sometime during the week" etc. Nothing. Just a "sorry im out of town tonight".




How do you take this?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Mantis Toboggan

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How did you ask her out? What was the conversation?

Also, how did you meet her?

It would help to know this kinda stuff.
 

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FTR - this is a girl i've already hooked up with, things didnt work out, but we're still friends and have hooked up a couple times since. i wanna turn it into more of a FWB situation :rockon:
 

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Mantis Toboggan said:
How did you ask her out? What was the conversation?

Also, how did you meet her?

It would help to know this kinda stuff.
txt msg


Me: hey what's up

Her: im out of town for now, what are you up to?

Me: going to ____ tonight

Her: hehe cool

Me: u shud meet us there later

Her: nah sorry im not in town
 

Mantis Toboggan

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REPEM said:
txt msg


Me: hey what's up

Her: im out of town for now, what are you up to?

Me: going to ____ tonight

Her: hehe cool

Me: u shud meet us there later

Her: nah sorry im not in town
Oh. That's not a big deal at all. You're just overanalyzing. Give it another shot during the week.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SandHawk

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Why did you even ask her to meet up when she said she's out of town? Because it seems like a waste of energy to even bother.

But, take the 2(or 3) strikes rule into account. If a girl flakes 2 or 3 times without bothering to re-schedule, they're exit. Even if I hooked up in the past with her. Don't be too needy, don't over-analyze stuff. It's logical she didn't bother to propose another time to meet up, because she was out of town and you invite her to come over to that specific place. If she doesn't respond to "hye, wanna meet up on <date:time>" well, then you have grounds to next her.
 

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SandHawk said:
Why did you even ask her to meet up when she said she's out of town? Because it seems like a waste of energy to even bother.
Yup. I admit it was Stupid on my part. Still refining my skills.

I figured she'd be back home later in the night and we could meet up then.
 

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REPEM said:
So I ask this girl out tonight.

She's already out when I asked her.

I know a girl will make herself available if shes interested but it's understandable if she's already out.

But she didnt give a "tommorow" or "sometime during the week" etc. Nothing. Just a "sorry im out of town tonight".




How do you take this?
The "Two Strikes Rule" is your best friend. Do a search on this forum for it. Instead of overanalysing everything she does, ask her to hang out and if she rejects you twice without making a counter offer, move on. Give it one more go with this girl, and if she replies the same way, next her.
 
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