"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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She's busy

REPEM

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So I ask this girl out tonight.

She's already out when I asked her.

I know a girl will make herself available if shes interested but it's understandable if she's already out.

But she didnt give a "tommorow" or "sometime during the week" etc. Nothing. Just a "sorry im out of town tonight".




How do you take this?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Mantis Toboggan

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How did you ask her out? What was the conversation?

Also, how did you meet her?

It would help to know this kinda stuff.
 

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FTR - this is a girl i've already hooked up with, things didnt work out, but we're still friends and have hooked up a couple times since. i wanna turn it into more of a FWB situation :rockon:
 

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Mantis Toboggan said:
How did you ask her out? What was the conversation?

Also, how did you meet her?

It would help to know this kinda stuff.
txt msg


Me: hey what's up

Her: im out of town for now, what are you up to?

Me: going to ____ tonight

Her: hehe cool

Me: u shud meet us there later

Her: nah sorry im not in town
 

Mantis Toboggan

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REPEM said:
txt msg


Me: hey what's up

Her: im out of town for now, what are you up to?

Me: going to ____ tonight

Her: hehe cool

Me: u shud meet us there later

Her: nah sorry im not in town
Oh. That's not a big deal at all. You're just overanalyzing. Give it another shot during the week.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Why did you even ask her to meet up when she said she's out of town? Because it seems like a waste of energy to even bother.

But, take the 2(or 3) strikes rule into account. If a girl flakes 2 or 3 times without bothering to re-schedule, they're exit. Even if I hooked up in the past with her. Don't be too needy, don't over-analyze stuff. It's logical she didn't bother to propose another time to meet up, because she was out of town and you invite her to come over to that specific place. If she doesn't respond to "hye, wanna meet up on <date:time>" well, then you have grounds to next her.
 

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SandHawk said:
Why did you even ask her to meet up when she said she's out of town? Because it seems like a waste of energy to even bother.
Yup. I admit it was Stupid on my part. Still refining my skills.

I figured she'd be back home later in the night and we could meet up then.
 

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REPEM said:
So I ask this girl out tonight.

She's already out when I asked her.

I know a girl will make herself available if shes interested but it's understandable if she's already out.

But she didnt give a "tommorow" or "sometime during the week" etc. Nothing. Just a "sorry im out of town tonight".




How do you take this?
The "Two Strikes Rule" is your best friend. Do a search on this forum for it. Instead of overanalysing everything she does, ask her to hang out and if she rejects you twice without making a counter offer, move on. Give it one more go with this girl, and if she replies the same way, next her.
 
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