So I'm at a club and I start talking to this group of 3 gals. Two of which turned out to be dykes and one of which I liked. So long story short I start talking with the one girl I like (hb 7) and number close her (after conversing with her for about 45 min.... My other buddy (roommate) was with an UG and the UG convinced her to go to an after party. In the car the vibes were good until we decided not to go to the after party but to go to our apartment instead. Awkward silence in the car. We get to my place and we chatted more. My roomy takes his lady into the room and starts banging her. We talked more, interesting conversation too. But somehow I feel like I was missing IOI's or was not creating enough attraction. I could have gone in for a kiss (which I later did) but it didn't feel right, like somehow I wasn't taking the lead. Somehow I didn't start a phase shift in the right direction. We ended up talking until like 6:30 am... Eventually we were like lets sleep and before I went to sleep I said: "it was nice talking with you" (hmmm probably not the best thing to say but whatever live and learn) with an immediate kiss follow up. So we made out for like 20 minutes (we were both really tired and drunk) my libido was down and hers too. I cuddled up to her and we fell asleep for a while and I later rolled over and slept more. I woke up feeling kind of nausiated and there were noised around the house that kept us from sleeping. I was honestly not in the mood to **** though she was really attractive in my opinion. I need some lessons on phase shift attraction and IOI initiation... Any ideas would be greatly apprectiated...
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Shes at your house, how to take the lead
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
diablo
Master Don Juan
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Tomatoes
Master Don Juan
Mate you got her to yours.....alone.....she wouldnt have done that if she wasnt intrested. I know finding a kiss entrance is not always easy and you may feel she is not giving IOI.
BEST WAY to initiate in this period is threw Kino. Tickling, Pillow fight anything that gets you 2 close. You will be right up against her. As soon as she gives you Eye contact.....Boom. Kiss her. Works a charm. From there you can kino her and slip your hand down her pants. Get her randy and take it from there.
You messed up this time but everyone does. You will learn from it thow and the key rule is you SHOULD ALWAYS make a move. YOu know this because when you did make a move you 2 made out but by then it was too late for sex. You cant let time slip all night like that.
BEST WAY to initiate in this period is threw Kino. Tickling, Pillow fight anything that gets you 2 close. You will be right up against her. As soon as she gives you Eye contact.....Boom. Kiss her. Works a charm. From there you can kino her and slip your hand down her pants. Get her randy and take it from there.
You messed up this time but everyone does. You will learn from it thow and the key rule is you SHOULD ALWAYS make a move. YOu know this because when you did make a move you 2 made out but by then it was too late for sex. You cant let time slip all night like that.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.