So I'm at a club and I start talking to this group of 3 gals. Two of which turned out to be dykes and one of which I liked. So long story short I start talking with the one girl I like (hb 7) and number close her (after conversing with her for about 45 min.... My other buddy (roommate) was with an UG and the UG convinced her to go to an after party. In the car the vibes were good until we decided not to go to the after party but to go to our apartment instead. Awkward silence in the car. We get to my place and we chatted more. My roomy takes his lady into the room and starts banging her. We talked more, interesting conversation too. But somehow I feel like I was missing IOI's or was not creating enough attraction. I could have gone in for a kiss (which I later did) but it didn't feel right, like somehow I wasn't taking the lead. Somehow I didn't start a phase shift in the right direction. We ended up talking until like 6:30 am... Eventually we were like lets sleep and before I went to sleep I said: "it was nice talking with you" (hmmm probably not the best thing to say but whatever live and learn) with an immediate kiss follow up. So we made out for like 20 minutes (we were both really tired and drunk) my libido was down and hers too. I cuddled up to her and we fell asleep for a while and I later rolled over and slept more. I woke up feeling kind of nausiated and there were noised around the house that kept us from sleeping. I was honestly not in the mood to **** though she was really attractive in my opinion. I need some lessons on phase shift attraction and IOI initiation... Any ideas would be greatly apprectiated...
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Shes at your house, how to take the lead
- Thread starter midnight
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
diablo
Master Don Juan
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Tomatoes
Master Don Juan
Mate you got her to yours.....alone.....she wouldnt have done that if she wasnt intrested. I know finding a kiss entrance is not always easy and you may feel she is not giving IOI.
BEST WAY to initiate in this period is threw Kino. Tickling, Pillow fight anything that gets you 2 close. You will be right up against her. As soon as she gives you Eye contact.....Boom. Kiss her. Works a charm. From there you can kino her and slip your hand down her pants. Get her randy and take it from there.
You messed up this time but everyone does. You will learn from it thow and the key rule is you SHOULD ALWAYS make a move. YOu know this because when you did make a move you 2 made out but by then it was too late for sex. You cant let time slip all night like that.
BEST WAY to initiate in this period is threw Kino. Tickling, Pillow fight anything that gets you 2 close. You will be right up against her. As soon as she gives you Eye contact.....Boom. Kiss her. Works a charm. From there you can kino her and slip your hand down her pants. Get her randy and take it from there.
You messed up this time but everyone does. You will learn from it thow and the key rule is you SHOULD ALWAYS make a move. YOu know this because when you did make a move you 2 made out but by then it was too late for sex. You cant let time slip all night like that.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.