So I'm at a club and I start talking to this group of 3 gals. Two of which turned out to be dykes and one of which I liked. So long story short I start talking with the one girl I like (hb 7) and number close her (after conversing with her for about 45 min.... My other buddy (roommate) was with an UG and the UG convinced her to go to an after party. In the car the vibes were good until we decided not to go to the after party but to go to our apartment instead. Awkward silence in the car. We get to my place and we chatted more. My roomy takes his lady into the room and starts banging her. We talked more, interesting conversation too. But somehow I feel like I was missing IOI's or was not creating enough attraction. I could have gone in for a kiss (which I later did) but it didn't feel right, like somehow I wasn't taking the lead. Somehow I didn't start a phase shift in the right direction. We ended up talking until like 6:30 am... Eventually we were like lets sleep and before I went to sleep I said: "it was nice talking with you" (hmmm probably not the best thing to say but whatever live and learn) with an immediate kiss follow up. So we made out for like 20 minutes (we were both really tired and drunk) my libido was down and hers too. I cuddled up to her and we fell asleep for a while and I later rolled over and slept more. I woke up feeling kind of nausiated and there were noised around the house that kept us from sleeping. I was honestly not in the mood to **** though she was really attractive in my opinion. I need some lessons on phase shift attraction and IOI initiation... Any ideas would be greatly apprectiated...
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Shes at your house, how to take the lead
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
diablo
Master Don Juan
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Tomatoes
Master Don Juan
Mate you got her to yours.....alone.....she wouldnt have done that if she wasnt intrested. I know finding a kiss entrance is not always easy and you may feel she is not giving IOI.
BEST WAY to initiate in this period is threw Kino. Tickling, Pillow fight anything that gets you 2 close. You will be right up against her. As soon as she gives you Eye contact.....Boom. Kiss her. Works a charm. From there you can kino her and slip your hand down her pants. Get her randy and take it from there.
You messed up this time but everyone does. You will learn from it thow and the key rule is you SHOULD ALWAYS make a move. YOu know this because when you did make a move you 2 made out but by then it was too late for sex. You cant let time slip all night like that.
BEST WAY to initiate in this period is threw Kino. Tickling, Pillow fight anything that gets you 2 close. You will be right up against her. As soon as she gives you Eye contact.....Boom. Kiss her. Works a charm. From there you can kino her and slip your hand down her pants. Get her randy and take it from there.
You messed up this time but everyone does. You will learn from it thow and the key rule is you SHOULD ALWAYS make a move. YOu know this because when you did make a move you 2 made out but by then it was too late for sex. You cant let time slip all night like that.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.