So I'm at a club and I start talking to this group of 3 gals. Two of which turned out to be dykes and one of which I liked. So long story short I start talking with the one girl I like (hb 7) and number close her (after conversing with her for about 45 min.... My other buddy (roommate) was with an UG and the UG convinced her to go to an after party. In the car the vibes were good until we decided not to go to the after party but to go to our apartment instead. Awkward silence in the car. We get to my place and we chatted more. My roomy takes his lady into the room and starts banging her. We talked more, interesting conversation too. But somehow I feel like I was missing IOI's or was not creating enough attraction. I could have gone in for a kiss (which I later did) but it didn't feel right, like somehow I wasn't taking the lead. Somehow I didn't start a phase shift in the right direction. We ended up talking until like 6:30 am... Eventually we were like lets sleep and before I went to sleep I said: "it was nice talking with you" (hmmm probably not the best thing to say but whatever live and learn) with an immediate kiss follow up. So we made out for like 20 minutes (we were both really tired and drunk) my libido was down and hers too. I cuddled up to her and we fell asleep for a while and I later rolled over and slept more. I woke up feeling kind of nausiated and there were noised around the house that kept us from sleeping. I was honestly not in the mood to **** though she was really attractive in my opinion. I need some lessons on phase shift attraction and IOI initiation... Any ideas would be greatly apprectiated...
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Shes at your house, how to take the lead
- Thread starter midnight
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
diablo
Master Don Juan
Please post in the right section, thanks.
Tomatoes
Master Don Juan
Mate you got her to yours.....alone.....she wouldnt have done that if she wasnt intrested. I know finding a kiss entrance is not always easy and you may feel she is not giving IOI.
BEST WAY to initiate in this period is threw Kino. Tickling, Pillow fight anything that gets you 2 close. You will be right up against her. As soon as she gives you Eye contact.....Boom. Kiss her. Works a charm. From there you can kino her and slip your hand down her pants. Get her randy and take it from there.
You messed up this time but everyone does. You will learn from it thow and the key rule is you SHOULD ALWAYS make a move. YOu know this because when you did make a move you 2 made out but by then it was too late for sex. You cant let time slip all night like that.
BEST WAY to initiate in this period is threw Kino. Tickling, Pillow fight anything that gets you 2 close. You will be right up against her. As soon as she gives you Eye contact.....Boom. Kiss her. Works a charm. From there you can kino her and slip your hand down her pants. Get her randy and take it from there.
You messed up this time but everyone does. You will learn from it thow and the key rule is you SHOULD ALWAYS make a move. YOu know this because when you did make a move you 2 made out but by then it was too late for sex. You cant let time slip all night like that.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.