Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
married ex... move on... shes kinda off the market.Thugo said:What does it mean if an ex girl you want back is taken now (married) but wont tell you to go away and leave her alone? She just doesnt reply to emails? I asked to to just tell me to go away and I will but she won't.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Brando SC said:You messed it up man. So is life. You'll move on. My advice to you is to just stop worrying about her so much. Just forget her. Don't try to talk to her anymore, if she still wanted to be with you she wouldn't have gotten married. Face it where do you want to end up? Do you want to be happily married to some girl who is probably a lot better than her anyway, or do you want to waste your life pining and being miserable over this married girl who it's just not going to work out with. If it was supposed to work out, it would've worked out. It didn't, so now you just have to move on, and find the better option. I've had a similar situation. Best of luck to you man.
No she is not. You are throwing that garbage in your own head. You're dellusional. Take a break.Thugo said:and she is making me think she might still love me a little..
TillTheEndOfTime said:No she is not. You are throwing that garbage in your own head. You're dellusional. Take a break.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
lildevil said:I know for a fact that getting dumped feels bad.I have gotten dumped you know what it i took it to far i asked her why i wasnt good for her i told her i would do anything just to be with her.I would call her she wouldn't answer the cell phone until one day her boyfriend answered and asked me why i was talking to his girl and i got very mad.The next day i went to school i found her a lone and started arguing with her and then i just got very angry and my first instinct was to punch her and i saw her fall to the ground witch didnt feel so bad at the time but.It all ended with a restraining order and the times i would see her i and feel bad i couldnt even look at her.
Now i dont go for one girl now i go for more than one just to have backups and it never m,akes me needy.You can find hot chicks anywhere....
look buddy theres fourrrrrrrrrrrrrr billion women in this planet.One of them is the girl of your dreams.
look you might think that shes the perfect one that got away but shes not. There could be someone that might like you and since you are all to caught up with this chick and just because you dont see to much going on doesnt mean no one likes you.
Just keep looking....
Then why is she STILL MARRIED TO THE GUY?what if she's not truly happy in her marriage? ...its like the kid she loves not the guy
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She asked me not to call her house because it upsets her husaband. I obeyed her and never called her but she wont reply to my emails.Phyzzle said:Then why is she STILL MARRIED TO THE GUY?
I dare you to ask her that. (I'm thinking you won't the guts to.)
lildevil said:thats all for me today ...PEACE OUT EVERYBODY.....Thugo one girl is not worth it...
That's ******** for "NO!!"she wont reply to my emails.
Yes, because you expect woman to speak english. Real women don't.am i being delusional?
Knock yourself out, bud. Sounds like fun.will email her until I am blue in the face until I get a LEAVE ME ALONE from her!
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.