I broke up with my GF of 13 months about 2-3 months ago. Recently, she told me that one of the reasons she doubted our relationship is that she thought she loved me too much. She said it's dangerous because it could make her possessive, obsessive, overprotective, etc. Her friends and mother also tell her that don't love a guy too much. I don't get it. What's wrong with giving so much love?? It's not that I didn't love her back..
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She was afraid she loved me too much.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Personally it just sounds like a weak excuse. You don't stop talking to your parents or children because you love them too much.
It may be chic speak for, I can't tame and control you and I am afraid to be submissive to you because I might loose myself and you might run all over me. Or it could just be a nice way to let you down easy. Don't stress it...just move on. If she really loved you she wouldn't be trying to play these power struggle games.
It may be chic speak for, I can't tame and control you and I am afraid to be submissive to you because I might loose myself and you might run all over me. Or it could just be a nice way to let you down easy. Don't stress it...just move on. If she really loved you she wouldn't be trying to play these power struggle games.
KontrollerX
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Very nice.
Glad one of you finally ended that disaster dude.
Now you can finally focus on getting a better girl for yourself.
Glad one of you finally ended that disaster dude.
Now you can finally focus on getting a better girl for yourself.
Trajhenkhet01
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Someone that really loves you wouldn't do anything like that. Of course real love is pretty rare these days.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.