I broke up with my GF of 13 months about 2-3 months ago. Recently, she told me that one of the reasons she doubted our relationship is that she thought she loved me too much. She said it's dangerous because it could make her possessive, obsessive, overprotective, etc. Her friends and mother also tell her that don't love a guy too much. I don't get it. What's wrong with giving so much love?? It's not that I didn't love her back..
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She was afraid she loved me too much.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Personally it just sounds like a weak excuse. You don't stop talking to your parents or children because you love them too much.
It may be chic speak for, I can't tame and control you and I am afraid to be submissive to you because I might loose myself and you might run all over me. Or it could just be a nice way to let you down easy. Don't stress it...just move on. If she really loved you she wouldn't be trying to play these power struggle games.
It may be chic speak for, I can't tame and control you and I am afraid to be submissive to you because I might loose myself and you might run all over me. Or it could just be a nice way to let you down easy. Don't stress it...just move on. If she really loved you she wouldn't be trying to play these power struggle games.
KontrollerX
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Very nice.
Glad one of you finally ended that disaster dude.
Now you can finally focus on getting a better girl for yourself.
Glad one of you finally ended that disaster dude.
Now you can finally focus on getting a better girl for yourself.
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Someone that really loves you wouldn't do anything like that. Of course real love is pretty rare these days.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.