"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She wants to talk less, but she wants to talk more?

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Just Another Guy....

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She's got a BF and really hasn't shown much interest, but I enjoy talking to her. We're a lot alike and we share a lot of interests.

Anywho, we talked one day and we agreed to talk less because she's in a relationship.

I was ready to next her.

But, she finds me a lot and we talk a lot on campus. It's kinda weird, we're talking more now, since she said she wanted to talk less.

wtf?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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PhatE1vis

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Sounds to me like she took you through a two-step process that works to her advantage.

Step 1: She establishes that she's in a relationship and not interested in you romantically through the whole not talking thing.

Step 2: Once she's established that, she feels comfortable talking with you again because now you're her girlfriend.

What do you talk about with her?
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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Just Another Guy.... said:
She's got a BF and really hasn't shown much interest, but I enjoy talking to her. We're a lot alike and we share a lot of interests.

Anywho, we talked one day and we agreed to talk less because she's in a relationship.

I was ready to next her.

But, she finds me a lot and we talk a lot on campus. It's kinda weird, we're talking more now, since she said she wanted to talk less.

wtf?
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Well, sounds like she's getting her relationship needs filled. She's dating someone she's attracted to who fills her physical needs and she has you to fulfill her emotional needs that her boyfriend lacks. The boyfriend also comes out ahead because he's able to get his own physical needs filled without having to provide emotional support. You and this girl can be BFF! All is well in the world! :p
 
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Like that guy up there said; you do the work, he get's the pu$$y! :p

I hope your internet connection doesn't go out! :whistle:
 
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She wants to talk less, but she wants to talk more?
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That is a strange sentence. It should be "she wants to talk less, but ends up talking more"


It's like when I was younger I was always confused by that NBC show Today.

When they did a commercial for it on Wednesday for Thursday's show, they would say "That's tomorrow, on today"
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Make her jealous. Ignore her and go talk to some other hot females. Your too busy for her. Basically, you next her without actually doing it
 
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