"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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She wants to play Kill, Marry or Bang

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Hi, there's a girl I know who I'm totally in the friend zone with or at least i think I am. I've got a date lined up with her and she says she wants to play Kill, Bang or Marry on the date.

Previous date she was playing with her feet against my leg under the table. We are quite close friends, but I'm wondering if it sounds like she wants more?
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hi, there's a girl I know who I'm totally in the friend zone with or at least i think I am. I've got a date lined up with her and she says she wants to play Kill, Bang or Marry on the date.

Previous date she was playing with her feet against my leg under the table. We are quite close friends, but I'm wondering if it sounds like she wants more?
When she rubs her feet against yours you instantly grab her hands and look at her deeply with a big smile. Then say “your pretty”. Talk Some nonsense afterwards. When you leave the bar or museum or restaurant or whatever you grab her hands again outside and Kiss her. Thats all you gotta do.... do it , be a man and report back..
 

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Yeah go and play you'll do well in relationship happily ever after.
 

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Thanks guys! Puzzling though because she has actually said to me that I am in the friendzone..... So it's confusing
 

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Respect yourself, get out of it, enjoy what you wanted to do in life, girl will chasing u in no time. No one like to be with someine who isn't appealing.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Thanks guys! Puzzling though because she has actually said to me that I am in the friendzone..... So it's confusing
Just be cexual towards her , thats how you get out the zone.... only way..
 

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Good thing she wants to play a sexual game then lol.... Job half done! Cheers Gambino!
 

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Hi, there's a girl I know who I'm totally in the friend zone with or at least i think I am. I've got a date lined up with her and she says she wants to play Kill, Bang or Marry on the date.

Previous date she was playing with her feet against my leg under the table. We are quite close friends, but I'm wondering if it sounds like she wants more?
Just tell her you want to bang them all.
 

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Thanks guys! Puzzling though because she has actually said to me that I am in the friendzone..... So it's confusing
If she says "you are in the friend zone," and you are just reply with "pff of course i am and so are you." Then gush about all the other girls/plates you are spinning/doing, treat her like you would any other dude you are friends with and when the bill comes in tell the waitress or waiter "its her treat today," and have them bring her the bill and watch her reaction.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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If she says "you are in the friend zone," and you are just reply with "pff of course i am and so are you." Then gush about all the other girls/plates you are spinning/doing, treat her like you would any other dude you are friends with and when the bill comes in tell the waitress or waiter "its her treat today," and have them bring her the bill and watch her reaction.
Just tell her you want to bang them all.
Hahaha
 

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If she says "you are in the friend zone," and you are just reply with "pff of course i am and so are you." Then gush about all the other girls/plates you are spinning/doing, treat her like you would any other dude you are friends with and when the bill comes in tell the waitress or waiter "its her treat today," and have them bring her the bill and watch her reaction.
Sounds like a plan! Thanks!
 

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I get the humor but obviously if she says no stop. He stops. I'm not condoning anything illegal here. Just escalation. Up 2 back 1. Up 2 more back another.
In my country people spend time 6 month to 2 years in jail for options no2.. Its ridiculous.
 

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In my country people spend time 6 month to 2 years in jail for options no2.. Its ridiculous.
To combat this you have to be really alltractive, at age 39 I've started to reverse my age 15 yrs younger
, really take care of myself lookwise then society will started to look differently towards you, you'll notice the way the girl treat you is like everyone else doesn't matters they cant stop looking at you.
 

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Kill, Marry, Bang is kind of a fun game to think about. I personally wouldn't have a problem with it. But I'm surprised no one has objected to it, since it is inviting her to talk about other guys who turn her on. It's basically talking about what guys she likes with her, which sounds like a friendzone thing to do. But again, it wouldn't personally bother me, it's all in fun. Just escalate when the time comes. Maybe she'll get worked up and be in the mood.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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First off, it's 'fvck, marry, kill'.
 

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Kill, Marry, Bang is kind of a fun game to think about. I personally wouldn't have a problem with it. But I'm surprised no one has objected to it, since it is inviting her to talk about other guys who turn her on. It's basically talking about what guys she likes with her, which sounds like a friendzone thing to do. But again, it wouldn't personally bother me, it's all in fun. Just escalate when the time comes. Maybe she'll get worked up and be in the mood.
Those were my thoughts too, that it was a friendzone game for her to talk about other guys. The thing I didn't mention was she knows I think she's hot and I do flirt with her (harmlessly)... But anyway I will see how it goes. Thanks for the advice!
 

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I had the date tonight. Had a great time and yes we played the game and had a lot of laughs about it. No sexual vibes and she even used "thanks buddy" at one point. So yup, friend zone for sure. It's all good, i won't chase her and move on! Thanks anyway everyone
 

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I had the date tonight. Had a great time and yes we played the game and had a lot of laughs about it. No sexual vibes and she even used "thanks buddy" at one point. So yup, friend zone for sure. It's all good, i won't chase her and move on! Thanks anyway everyone
Your call, but IMO:
You should have escalated. You miss all the shots you don't take.
Guys here are too paranoid about the friendzone. It's possible to make her see you in a way she hadn't considered.
She might have friendzoned you in the first place because she saw you didn't have the nerve to make a move. You're probably the one who gave the idea you were "safe".
As long as you don't get emotionally invested, in case it doesn't work out.
 
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