"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Alpheta

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Anymore advice? Im Gna call her so anytips before I do or any other advice will be appreciated lol
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Well if you already said you would call then yeah go with that. I think just be friendly; give the impression that you're really happy. There's not really much I could say at this stage butpost how the conversation went.
 

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Well if you already said you would call then yeah go with that. I think just be friendly; give the impression that you're really happy. There's not really much I could say at this stage butpost how the conversation went.

Well so I called and she tells me straight away if she can call in 30 mins. I say no I gotta be somewhere so make it quick. Shes like my friend xyz is here I can't talk. I tell her to go outside so she does and tells me that she made a mistake on Sunday etc etc and wasn't thinking straight. Said her sister likes me and supports the fact that I'm a cool guy and so wants to get back. I go we ended on Sunday so I don't know what I'm feeling like tbh. I'm kinda over you. She asks if I'm with me ex and I say lol Na just friends. She's going on about something so I tell her I need to go but I'd like to continue the convo over a coffee. She was quick to agree and asked about this Sunday which I refused and said next Sunday. She asks if I'm going to call her later and I tell her I'm really busy these few weeks so I'll just see her in a few weeks. She says surely you can call me inberween somewhere I just ignore that and tell her to tell me when she's booked her ticked to come to my place.

She asks again if I'm with my ex and I laugh and tell her that does she not want to see me next Sunday? Tell her to leave out the emotions and we'll just chill. Tell her I gotta go now and I'll see her in two weeks.


That's it. lol
 

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Anyways it's funny how just 3 days have made me feel so much more better. I feel like tw year with her were like a burden. After talking to her today I don't feel the same. I don't want to unblock her iMessage. I can't be asked to read her messages or anticipate them. I don't want to get back in to that.

Maybe that's just an indicator that this relationship isn't good for me? Nonetheless I'm Gna try to make the most of this
 

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I wouldn't say it wasn't good for you. I think you were probably putting in more than you were getting out of it. Same thing happened to me. After I moved out she was all lovey dovy again.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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