she always tells me she misses me and stuff. do i tell her 'miss you too' or do I play a game to make her want me more? if so what should i do in response to that? also when she calls me stuff like "hey stud." "hey cutie" do i just ignore it? I have a feeling if I don't acknowledge these IOI's that she might just think I'm not sexually interested in her...
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
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she tells me she misses me...do I just tell her I miss her too?
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This depends. Is she your gf or just some girl your talking to right now.
If it's your gf then there is no problem telling her you miss her and it may make her happy to hear you say it.
If it's just some plate your spinning just do c/f and say something along the lines of "I know". Not that exact phrase but you get the point
You can't really go wrong here since she is obviously interested in you. Just don't say "thank you" when she says it.
If it's your gf then there is no problem telling her you miss her and it may make her happy to hear you say it.
If it's just some plate your spinning just do c/f and say something along the lines of "I know". Not that exact phrase but you get the point
You can't really go wrong here since she is obviously interested in you. Just don't say "thank you" when she says it.
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just reply something like "I know" or "yeah, I get that a lot." Or "come over and show me how much you missed me."
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When she tells you "I miss you" tell her "I know."
When she says "Hey stud." you say "Yeah that's me."
When she says "I don't want a relationship right now" just shrug.
Remember for every 1 girl that sends you confusing messages like these, there's another 9 who are very clear about what they want from you. So go find your other 9 my friend.
When she says "Hey stud." you say "Yeah that's me."
When she says "I don't want a relationship right now" just shrug.
Remember for every 1 girl that sends you confusing messages like these, there's another 9 who are very clear about what they want from you. So go find your other 9 my friend.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Unless she is your gf, don't tell her you miss her (especially if she has explicitly stated that she doesn't want a relationship).baurman said:
By prompting you like this, she is trying to gauge your interest in terms of wanting a relationship (despite knowing you currently don't want one and her saying she doesn't either).
She is testing you. If she really isn't looking for a R right now, she wants to know you want one with her (hence the hot and cold).