She tells me I'm self-righteous...

[styleman]

She's ****ed her life up, and I'm doing everything I can to help her.
She says she still loves me but wants to not speak to me for a few days because 'I always just bail her out, and she wants to fix it herself.'
Every time I call or message her, she just tells me to stop messaging her and calling her and stop being so 'self-righteous' and 'selfish'.
Perhaps I am self-righteous, but rightfully so, she's the one who ****ed up her life, not me.
Selfish is one thing I certainly am not, I'm there for her, if I was selfish I really would not waste my time with her like this.
Any advice??

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

She has dumped you.

Stop contacting her, or you will be labeled a stalker.

Yes, I understand she is encouraging you to stalk but she has let you know to leave her alone so you better do it. Or she will really be gone forever.

 

[styleman]

Initially I thought the same, but she has also been messaging me on her own accord, things like,
'I guess you don't even remember me.'
'I think you like it when I suffer, you just get on with your life while I'm like this'
'Do not meet any girls'

Anything I reply to the above is met with
'Don't reply'
'Leave me alone'
etc.

I've said
'If its finished, just bloody say it, don't mess me around.'
Her response
'That's the last thing I want! Why can't you understand that I just cannot deal with people right now. I love you, just ****ing leave me alone'

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Initially I thought the same, but she has also been messaging me on her own accord, things like,
'I guess you don't even remember me.'
'I think you like it when I suffer, you just get on with your life while I'm like this'
'Do not meet any girls'

Anything I reply to the above is met with
'Don't reply'
'Leave me alone'
etc.

I've said
'If its finished, just bloody say it, don't mess me around.'
Her response
'That's the last thing I want! Why can't you understand that I just cannot deal with people right now. I love you, just ****ing leave me alone'

Ooooooooooo she messages you. Big deal man it means nothing.

 

[Tenzen]

how did she f- her life up?

 

[DarkShade]

Isn't being self-righteous a part of being successful? I'd hate to not be.

 

[Rounder]

Stop fixing her problems. Wouldn't you rather be with a woman who can solve her own issues? I figured that one out the hard way, but believe me it's better.

Listening to you describe her wears me out - so either she is a mess and has too much crap going on or you exaggerate and make more drama than is necessary.

Stop being "there for her" (excuse me while I puke). Supporting someone you care about is one thing - but you sound like you take pride in "being there for her" like it's the noble thing to do. You aren't impressing anyone by being "there for her" but yourself.

 

[jdon23]

She is sending you mixed messages. She wants your help then when you show support she pushes you away. Why are you even dealing with this behavior?

Save yourself a headache and completely cut this woman out of your life

 

[styleman]

She is sending you mixed messages. She wants your help then when you show support she pushes you away. Why are you even dealing with this behavior?

Save yourself a headache and completely cut this woman out of your life

Perhaps she does not want my support? I have no idea.

 

[Jaggs]

Yeah sounds like she just wants attention. Stop giving it to her.

Next time this happens don't 'be there for her' when she acts like this. IGnore her messages and if she really continues with it say, "Hey...thought you broke up with me?". Start socializing with other people/girls and she will cut the crap and may even want you back (But why would you want that?! she sounds like a pain! ...unless you really like her I guess)

let her solve her 'issues' or whatever(lol)

 

[styleman]

She's still doing the same thing, messaging me then telling me not to reply... Anyone know what I should do??

 

[Kupid Diggs]

Don't try to save that ho... Your cape is starting to flap out of control.

 

[coolf1r3]

'That's the last thing I want! Why can't you understand that I just cannot deal with people right now. I love you, just ****ing leave me alone'


Well, those are some mixed signals if I've ever seen any.

 

[jdon23]

I already told you what you need to do.. STOP CONTACT

Stop damaging your self-dignity by putting up with this woman's BS. HER PROBLEMS are NOT yours!!!

Walk away

 

[shaunuk]

She seems selfish and ungrateful. I don't see why you're trying to rescue this, she seems a bit messed up. Stop contacting her mate.

 

[puma183]

The above posters are correct:

1) She needs some "space" so she can sample some other guys. She is either having sex with one already, or very close to closing the deal. She is dangling you along, albeit at arms length, so that if this new liason doesn't work out you will be her safety-net/plan-B. This is actually pretty common evolved female mating behavior.

2) You are subconsciously trying to deal with this by morphing into Captain Save a Ho. Don't. Instead, try finding some plates to spin of your own.

 

[styleman]

I miss her and am very depressed.

 

[DJDamage]

She's still doing the same thing, messaging me then telling me not to reply... Anyone know what I should do??

In the words of Samual L. Jackson: "THIS IS SOME FVCKED UP REPUGNANT SH1T".

She is playing games with you and using you.

Its time to pick up the phone and with your manly voice calmly tell her: "Don't ever call me or message me again, we are done!, GOT THAT??!!".

 

[J Roc]

Look! Up in the sky! Is it a bird? Is it a plane? No it's...Styleman!!!

 

[Kupid Diggs]

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