So basically theres this girl that works at a candy shop near my house. I met her there when i was going to buy some candy with some friends, and again a second time. im almost positive theres a connection between us. We talked for about 5 minutes once, but i didnt ask for her number. Would it be weird to go back this weekend and say something like "Hey its me. I'm back again. I just wanted to tell you that when i left last week, i was kind of disappointed in myself, because i didnt even ask you your name. I thought about it during the week, and said to myself "this girls seems to special to let her slip away" so i decided to come back and ask you for your number so we can go out sometime and get to know each other better." Would that be creepy to do that? or would it sweep her off her feet? Or would it be even better to just go back with some friends to buy some candy, see her there again, spark up another conversation, and then ask her for her number?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She stuffs
- Thread starter saber101
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
nicenomore
Senior Don Juan
saber101 said:
You're having one-itis in my mind it seems......
When ever you meet her again , ..start normal conversation. Dont use any of the lines you've mentioned . You'll seriously end up looking like an AFC. Ask for her name in end when you have to end the convo by saying something like" I really gotta go , why dont you give me your number?"
The Shocker
Senior Don Juan
Why is the name of this thread "she stuffs"? I thought you just found out your girlfriend was stuffing her bra or something.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
i thought kleenex too.The Shocker said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.