She still likes her ex's social media. Should I be worried?

[vanballmoos]

I just got back into dating some I'm a little rusty.

I met this girl through a really good mutual friend of mine a little over a month ago. We seem to be hitting it off. The issue is she likes about every other picture her ex has posted. They broke up in early October. From what my buddy told me is he broke up with her, he tried to reconcile shortly after, she said no, but she told him she was struggling with the breakup and he said he was too.

I just don't want to set myself up and or waste my time, because I really am interested in her.

I’m trying to tell myself it’s just her liking the content. She’ll like her other ex’s pictures too, but he’s from years ago. According to my friednd, she’ll even like pictures of old flings that didn’t work out, so maybe she’s just weird?

Either way should I be worried?

 

[Glassguy]

She is still living in the past and you are a rebound

Yes........I would withdraw some attention, make her wonder why and only ask her to come over and hang out. Nothing more. Turn her into a fvck buddy and demote her. If she gets over him later on and states she wants more, then its your decision. Until then you will be strung along according to her emotional roller coaster over the ex and will have little to no control. One thing is for sure, you need to take control of the situation.

Probably wouldnt hurt to start hitting up other chicks and have them like your stuff on FB lol.

 

[vanballmoos]

She is still living in the past and you are a rebound

Interesting. So you think she's not even trying to move on?

 

[chris2for]

She's trying but she probably won't be able to. The next guy after you may get her as a relatively tabula rasa(of course they carry their baggage with them forever)

You should not have gotten exclusive with her after only a month of dating

I don't know. If she's liking his stuff, to me that's not trying to move on. Trying to move on would be avoiding her social media altogether.

 

[chris2for]

She is literally dating o p as a rebound to try to move on. That doesn't mean she is being successful of course

I hear you but I think there's a difference between using someone as a distraction vs wanting to genuinely move on.

 

[vanballmoos]

She's trying but she probably won't be able to. The next guy after you may get her as a relatively tabula rasa(of course they carry their baggage with them forever)

You should not have gotten exclusive with her after only a month of dating

My buddy did tell me that after she turned him away that she was blowing up his phone saying stuff like the breakup really messed with her, how she wanted to stay but couldn't. Then a little later the I'm having a hard time message followed. Also he's also under the impression he tried she tried to make him jealous. She snapped a video of her food and then showed the guy she was on a date with. Not quite sure it sounds like she was trying to make him jealous though.

 

[lizardking82]

Why should this be any of your concern? You are trying to lock this girl down into a relationship, that is not your job, dude. If you got to stick your penis into her vagina, make sure you keep doing that. If she thinks you are worth it, she will push for the relationship in no time. Right now, she's pushing more to get the attention of her ex because apparently, she's got you all locked in.

 

[bizzym]

Why should this be any of your concern? You are trying to lock this girl down into a relationship, that is not your job, dude. If you got to stick your penis into her vagina, make sure you keep doing that. If she thinks you are worth it, she will push for the relationship in no time. Right now, she's pushing more to get the attention of her ex because apparently, she's got you all locked in.

I'm not big on social media-how does liking his pictures mean she's trying to get his attention, especially if she likes other flings and exes posts?

 

[lizardking82]

I'm not big on social media-how does liking his pictures mean she's trying to get his attention, especially if she likes other flings and exes posts?

Again, you're focusing on the wrong thing here. Open your eyes, you are micro managing this woman like she's the only woman left on Earth. If you had a busier life, dreams, projects, if you were trying new things, you wouldn't even have the time or the nerve to think why is this or that woman liking her ex's pictures...dude, this sounds like sth a woman would worry about.

 

[bizzym]

Again, you're focusing on the wrong thing here. Open your eyes, you are micro managing this woman like she's the only woman left on Earth. If you had a busier life, dreams, projects, if you were trying new things, you wouldn't even have the time or the nerve to think why is this or that woman liking her ex's pictures...dude, this sounds like sth a woman would worry about.

I'm not OP. I'm just curious to see how this social media thing works.