"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"She said what?!"

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I meet this girl at a bar not to long ago and got her number. She really seemed to be into me - considering she approached me. Anyway, long story short, I had text here a few times, and after a few 'no replies,' she told me she's going through a horrible break up. I played it cool and text her a few days later only to receive the "she's sorry but she doesn't think I'm her type" reply. My question is this, do I: A) still pursue her? If so, what would you suggest on trying? Or B) delete her number and forget about her? Lastly, I appreciate any advice as to how I can stay a way from situation like this in the future.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Buy her flowers to convince her you are her type.
 

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amoka said:
Buy her flowers to convince her you are her type.
deliver the flowers to her at work. wear a tuxedo just to make sure she knows how much you care. make sure you do this IMMEDIATELY do not wait.
 

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LikeASuperstar said:
-I had text her a few times,
-and after a few 'no replies,' she told me she's going through a horrible break up.
-text her a few days later
-only to receive the "she's sorry but she doesn't think I'm her type"

My question is this, do I:

A) still pursue her?
B) forget about her?
I didn't get straight A's university but I would go with option B
 

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Bring her flowers?! Yeah, uh... Shes just some girl I met at a bar and I have no idea where she works or anything of the sort. Any other suggestions?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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LikeASuperstar said:
I had text here a few times, and after a few 'no replies,' she told me she's going through a horrible break up. I played it cool and text her a few days later only to receive the "she's sorry but she doesn't think I'm her type" reply.
Go with option B. She made this really easy for you by communicating to you that she's not interested by ignoring your texts and then straight telling you that you're not her type. Continuing the pursuit is only going to freak her out.
 

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Consider yourself lucky.

Why? Most girls don't have the decency to tell a guy straight up he's not her type. This makes you waste alot of time since you don't know if she's interested or not.

This girl told you straight up. So delete the number, move on. And consider yourself lucky at least you KNOW, and don't need to waste any more time pursuing her.
 

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LikeASuperstar said:
Bring her flowers?! Yeah, uh... Shes just some girl I met at a bar and I have no idea where she works or anything of the sort. Any other suggestions?
I think he was perhaps being sarcastic. Just maybe.
 

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LikeASuperstar said:
Bring her flowers?! Yeah, uh... Shes just some girl I met at a bar and I have no idea where she works or anything of the sort. Any other suggestions?

Send her back a text telling her that you're not like all the other guys and that you're looking for that one special girl to make your life complete. Text her each day and ask her for a second chance and tell her that you're willing to fight for her love. Tell her that you understand that she's going through a tough break up and that you're willing to wait for her, even years if necessary.
 

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LikeASuperstar said:
Bring her flowers?! Yeah, uh... Shes just some girl I met at a bar and I have no idea where she works or anything of the sort. Any other suggestions?
Buy her a diamond ring and text her: Maybe you would like to use me for money supply. No doubt she will be back in a minute!
Seriously, forget about her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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