"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I meet this girl at a bar not to long ago and got her number. She really seemed to be into me - considering she approached me. Anyway, long story short, I had text here a few times, and after a few 'no replies,' she told me she's going through a horrible break up. I played it cool and text her a few days later only to receive the "she's sorry but she doesn't think I'm her type" reply. My question is this, do I: A) still pursue her? If so, what would you suggest on trying? Or B) delete her number and forget about her? Lastly, I appreciate any advice as to how I can stay a way from situation like this in the future.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Buy her flowers to convince her you are her type.
 

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amoka said:
Buy her flowers to convince her you are her type.
deliver the flowers to her at work. wear a tuxedo just to make sure she knows how much you care. make sure you do this IMMEDIATELY do not wait.
 

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LikeASuperstar said:
-I had text her a few times,
-and after a few 'no replies,' she told me she's going through a horrible break up.
-text her a few days later
-only to receive the "she's sorry but she doesn't think I'm her type"

My question is this, do I:

A) still pursue her?
B) forget about her?
I didn't get straight A's university but I would go with option B
 

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Bring her flowers?! Yeah, uh... Shes just some girl I met at a bar and I have no idea where she works or anything of the sort. Any other suggestions?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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LikeASuperstar said:
I had text here a few times, and after a few 'no replies,' she told me she's going through a horrible break up. I played it cool and text her a few days later only to receive the "she's sorry but she doesn't think I'm her type" reply.
Go with option B. She made this really easy for you by communicating to you that she's not interested by ignoring your texts and then straight telling you that you're not her type. Continuing the pursuit is only going to freak her out.
 

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Consider yourself lucky.

Why? Most girls don't have the decency to tell a guy straight up he's not her type. This makes you waste alot of time since you don't know if she's interested or not.

This girl told you straight up. So delete the number, move on. And consider yourself lucky at least you KNOW, and don't need to waste any more time pursuing her.
 

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LikeASuperstar said:
Bring her flowers?! Yeah, uh... Shes just some girl I met at a bar and I have no idea where she works or anything of the sort. Any other suggestions?
I think he was perhaps being sarcastic. Just maybe.
 

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LikeASuperstar said:
Bring her flowers?! Yeah, uh... Shes just some girl I met at a bar and I have no idea where she works or anything of the sort. Any other suggestions?

Send her back a text telling her that you're not like all the other guys and that you're looking for that one special girl to make your life complete. Text her each day and ask her for a second chance and tell her that you're willing to fight for her love. Tell her that you understand that she's going through a tough break up and that you're willing to wait for her, even years if necessary.
 

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LikeASuperstar said:
Bring her flowers?! Yeah, uh... Shes just some girl I met at a bar and I have no idea where she works or anything of the sort. Any other suggestions?
Buy her a diamond ring and text her: Maybe you would like to use me for money supply. No doubt she will be back in a minute!
Seriously, forget about her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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