"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She said she we need a time to think about

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Yesterday I had a fight with that girl I was dating. She kept doing the same **** when I asked her anything. She could not be assertive when I ask something.

I told that was very disrespectful and I wont tolerate it anymore cause she is repeating even after we talked about. She asked if that was a threat, I told no, but I was affirming I would not tolerate it anymore.

After that she became nervous, said a lot of stuffs and at the end told she need a time to think, and that time means like giving a break on our relationship. I just asked: so are you breaking up with me? She said yes.

I told, I don't believe on giving a break or time to think and said goodbye.

Today she sent me a message asking if I blocked her. I deleted her contact and didn't send anything to her. I didn't reply that message I won't reply her anymore.

I'm almost sure she did that thinking I was going to run for her and say to don't do that. But as I said, I don't believe into giving a break or a time in the relationship.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I think you made a "threat" and didn't follow through, and she called your bluff by her ending it first. I've been following Rian Stone, he has an example where he said "I won't tolerate this, and he immediately walks away"

AMS says that a 3-4 weeks break from a girl that doesn't have a lot of respect from you its good, that way she knows you'll wall away and won't tolerate things you don't like.

She gave you the opportunity for a break, maybe you start dating other women? She will definitely feel the distance and if she loves you that will kill her inside knowing that she did the breaking up while loving you
Yep, I should not made that threat. I really like her and sometimes I think I just screwed everything saying that.

Or maybe she already wants to break up but doenst have courage. Or she was just angry at that time.

I drunk too much last night, ended up on a stripper club and had sex with one of the women that work there. I know that woman, and ended up have unprotected sex. Something that there was a long time I didnt do.

It really messed with my feelings the way it happened.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How long were you dating?
Same chick?
 

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How long were you dating?
Same chick?
Yes. This first post was moments before I got drunk and post this new one.
 
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