"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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she said she had a bf, but said she was lonely. meaning?

commodore

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whats up all?

long time no post,but now im back.

so ive been working on this girl.

we had a convo, she mentioned she went to some city 4 hours away for the weekend, i asked her why and she says:

her: ive got a man up there, i just get so lonely down here.

sure when a woman mentions her bf, it means she's not interested, but y would the skank mention her loneliness? i reckon she's just a FB for this guy. anyone think its game over and move on? or is she up for grabs?

ps. what would have been a good respone to the above?

thnx
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Response to something like that? It was a pleasure knowing you.

If she says that she's lonely down where ever you live, and she has a bf, it means she's really attracted to him.
 

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thanks for replying

i see what you mean

on one hand she could be SO attracted to this guy that she's willing to travel 4 hours to eat his ****

on the other, it could mean that she's so desperate for **** that that she's willing to travel that far, BUT if another **** was in a nearby vincinity (i.e mine), she would decide to travel to that **** instead.

thoughts?
 

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It could work. She also might have said it to make you an emotional puppet to look towards when she's not with her boyfriend. If she said "But I'm so lonely down here," to any other men, he would have ate it all up and been her dog. What I would do? Show her who's in charge.
 

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My personal take on a situation like this, could go one of two ways

1. She wants you.

2. She's got a guy showering her with attention "up there", and now she wants her own little "attention monkey" down where you are.

Now I don't really know the woman (obviously), but I'd be wary of a woman that'd cheat on her b/f/
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ive got a man up there, i just get so lonely down here.
What i get from that is : "I've got a guy i can screw/have fun with up there, wish i had one here too"
In my uneducated opinion i think she's up for grabs.
 

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In my opinion, if she was trying to imply that she misses him and is taken she would have said she misses "him".

Come on, who's going to say, "i'm lonely here" when they're really meaning, I just miss my boyfriend. Unless she's a major tease, this to me, means she is looking for someone to hang out with where you are or more...
 

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Read the body language. I’m pretty new here but this seems to be the general theme. We can’t really give accurate opinions based only on what she said. Words don’t mean sh!t when it comes to girls.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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hmm.....I agree with everyone else. She wants someone to hang around with.

She did not mention she misses her bf instead that she is lonely.

So what would everyones response would be to this? or How would you go about this?

You don't want to be a dog, but then should you show interest?
 

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MooseGod said:
did she actually call him her "boyfriend" or just say literally that she's "got a man up there"?

nah she didnt say "boyfriend", literally "ive got a man up there". i reckon thats important, i think they're just FBs and she's just enjoying some tender love from a tender penis in the short run. my impression is that she's looking for a long term relationship. i cant provide one, but i can certainly be penis donor. LOL.

i still find it surprising though, she is without doubt a HB9, very social and im not to sure why she cant find a man right here and has to travel 4 hours for loving.

anyway when she mentioned it i just cut the convo thread and talked about something. ive read that asking around makes u afc.

lolz
 
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