StacksHitEmUp
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What does she actually mean when she says I'm playin hard to get? This is my number one prospect by the way.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She said I'm playing hard to get...
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
AllDay85
Senior Don Juan
It's a **** test. Keep doing you. Never let her words effect you.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
It could be useful feedback. The principles here on SS are training wheels, general guidelines. Some guys tend to take them too literally or too far.
When a woman really does think you're playing games she'll often eject, especially if you haven't built enough attraction. The usual effective formula is to use the principles but to pepper them with occasional "out of the blue" kindnesses. That's the roller coaster of emotion she needs.
When a woman really does think you're playing games she'll often eject, especially if you haven't built enough attraction. The usual effective formula is to use the principles but to pepper them with occasional "out of the blue" kindnesses. That's the roller coaster of emotion she needs.
StacksHitEmUp
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I have mislead you guys though. She didn't actually use the word playing, she said I was being hard to get. I sometimes do sweet gestures but very ocassionally, only if they're earned. I've been noticing a lot of women commenting on it lately whenever I do (not say) something considered nice or sweet, they ask me if that was a glimpse of my soft side. I only show glimpses of it so they'll work for it, I don't hand them the **** for free like an orbiter.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
"Is that a glimpse of your soft side?"
"This is simply who I am."
This implies that you are an integrated man and that you don't subscribe to her painting you with a dual polarity.
"This is simply who I am."
This implies that you are an integrated man and that you don't subscribe to her painting you with a dual polarity.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Mot1veProgress
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Lol when i call girls out on **** tests i just keep it simple "your adorable" and follow up with something that makes whatever she said or did go up in smoke..
If a girl can comfortably say youre being hard to get... Its actually a good sign.
Drop your defenses a little.. Be yourself and have fun. Ego can break something potential
If a girl can comfortably say youre being hard to get... Its actually a good sign.
Drop your defenses a little.. Be yourself and have fun. Ego can break something potential
old_skoolr
Master Don Juan
Girl: I feel like your playing hard to get.
Old_Skoolr: Babe, I'm easy. Come over an cook for me and I'll show how easy I can get.
Old_Skoolr: Babe, I'm easy. Come over an cook for me and I'll show how easy I can get.
yungballa
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When she says something like that, I think you should drop your defenses, like Mot1veProgress said.
If you make it too hard for her she'll probably think you can't be reached, so she'll just eject and leave you. Remember, you've gotta seem high up to a girl, but you can't seem too high that she can't reach you. It's balance. There's nothing wrong with being attractive to a woman, but if you take it too damn far and you act PERFECTLY in her eyes she'll feel she isn't worthy of you and she'll leave you. Sometimes you gotta show her the flaws purposely, too.
If you make it too hard for her she'll probably think you can't be reached, so she'll just eject and leave you. Remember, you've gotta seem high up to a girl, but you can't seem too high that she can't reach you. It's balance. There's nothing wrong with being attractive to a woman, but if you take it too damn far and you act PERFECTLY in her eyes she'll feel she isn't worthy of you and she'll leave you. Sometimes you gotta show her the flaws purposely, too.
VladPatton
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That's when you drop her. I see it as a sign of low interest. Hey, if you've got the time to chase and chase with minimal gain, be my guest, but for the most part, you'll be wasting your time.
Mot1veProgress
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It's not a sign of low interest. But it's a sign of when a girl is getting ready to utilize her vagina powers to full force.. Females are masters of mind games. If they sense you're playing hard to get or playing with their minds/emotions.. They'll start their own chess games.. and listen, we all know, the strongest piece on a chess board is THE QUEEN lol
But jokes aside, it's not a bad time to drop her.. Because who wants to tolerate mind games?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.