StacksHitEmUp
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What does she actually mean when she says I'm playin hard to get? This is my number one prospect by the way.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She said I'm playing hard to get...
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
AllDay85
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It's a **** test. Keep doing you. Never let her words effect you.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
It could be useful feedback. The principles here on SS are training wheels, general guidelines. Some guys tend to take them too literally or too far.
When a woman really does think you're playing games she'll often eject, especially if you haven't built enough attraction. The usual effective formula is to use the principles but to pepper them with occasional "out of the blue" kindnesses. That's the roller coaster of emotion she needs.
When a woman really does think you're playing games she'll often eject, especially if you haven't built enough attraction. The usual effective formula is to use the principles but to pepper them with occasional "out of the blue" kindnesses. That's the roller coaster of emotion she needs.
StacksHitEmUp
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I have mislead you guys though. She didn't actually use the word playing, she said I was being hard to get. I sometimes do sweet gestures but very ocassionally, only if they're earned. I've been noticing a lot of women commenting on it lately whenever I do (not say) something considered nice or sweet, they ask me if that was a glimpse of my soft side. I only show glimpses of it so they'll work for it, I don't hand them the **** for free like an orbiter.
Atom Smasher
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"Is that a glimpse of your soft side?"
"This is simply who I am."
This implies that you are an integrated man and that you don't subscribe to her painting you with a dual polarity.
"This is simply who I am."
This implies that you are an integrated man and that you don't subscribe to her painting you with a dual polarity.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Mot1veProgress
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Lol when i call girls out on **** tests i just keep it simple "your adorable" and follow up with something that makes whatever she said or did go up in smoke..
If a girl can comfortably say youre being hard to get... Its actually a good sign.
Drop your defenses a little.. Be yourself and have fun. Ego can break something potential
If a girl can comfortably say youre being hard to get... Its actually a good sign.
Drop your defenses a little.. Be yourself and have fun. Ego can break something potential
old_skoolr
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Girl: I feel like your playing hard to get.
Old_Skoolr: Babe, I'm easy. Come over an cook for me and I'll show how easy I can get.
Old_Skoolr: Babe, I'm easy. Come over an cook for me and I'll show how easy I can get.
yungballa
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When she says something like that, I think you should drop your defenses, like Mot1veProgress said.
If you make it too hard for her she'll probably think you can't be reached, so she'll just eject and leave you. Remember, you've gotta seem high up to a girl, but you can't seem too high that she can't reach you. It's balance. There's nothing wrong with being attractive to a woman, but if you take it too damn far and you act PERFECTLY in her eyes she'll feel she isn't worthy of you and she'll leave you. Sometimes you gotta show her the flaws purposely, too.
If you make it too hard for her she'll probably think you can't be reached, so she'll just eject and leave you. Remember, you've gotta seem high up to a girl, but you can't seem too high that she can't reach you. It's balance. There's nothing wrong with being attractive to a woman, but if you take it too damn far and you act PERFECTLY in her eyes she'll feel she isn't worthy of you and she'll leave you. Sometimes you gotta show her the flaws purposely, too.
VladPatton
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That's when you drop her. I see it as a sign of low interest. Hey, if you've got the time to chase and chase with minimal gain, be my guest, but for the most part, you'll be wasting your time.
Mot1veProgress
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It's not a sign of low interest. But it's a sign of when a girl is getting ready to utilize her vagina powers to full force.. Females are masters of mind games. If they sense you're playing hard to get or playing with their minds/emotions.. They'll start their own chess games.. and listen, we all know, the strongest piece on a chess board is THE QUEEN lol
But jokes aside, it's not a bad time to drop her.. Because who wants to tolerate mind games?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.