She said I'm playing hard to get...

[StacksHitEmUp]

What does she actually mean when she says I'm playin hard to get? This is my number one prospect by the way.

 

[AllDay85]

It's a **** test. Keep doing you. Never let her words effect you.

 

[Atom Smasher]

It could be useful feedback. The principles here on SS are training wheels, general guidelines. Some guys tend to take them too literally or too far.

When a woman really does think you're playing games she'll often eject, especially if you haven't built enough attraction. The usual effective formula is to use the principles but to pepper them with occasional "out of the blue" kindnesses. That's the roller coaster of emotion she needs.

 

[StacksHitEmUp]

I have mislead you guys though. She didn't actually use the word playing, she said I was being hard to get. I sometimes do sweet gestures but very ocassionally, only if they're earned. I've been noticing a lot of women commenting on it lately whenever I do (not say) something considered nice or sweet, they ask me if that was a glimpse of my soft side. I only show glimpses of it so they'll work for it, I don't hand them the **** for free like an orbiter.

 

[Atom Smasher]

"Is that a glimpse of your soft side?"

"This is simply who I am."

This implies that you are an integrated man and that you don't subscribe to her painting you with a dual polarity.

 

[Mot1veProgress]

Lol when i call girls out on **** tests i just keep it simple "your adorable" and follow up with something that makes whatever she said or did go up in smoke..

If a girl can comfortably say youre being hard to get... Its actually a good sign.

Drop your defenses a little.. Be yourself and have fun. Ego can break something potential

 

[old_skoolr]

Girl: I feel like your playing hard to get.
Old_Skoolr: Babe, I'm easy. Come over an cook for me and I'll show how easy I can get.

 

[yungballa]

When she says something like that, I think you should drop your defenses, like Mot1veProgress said.

If you make it too hard for her she'll probably think you can't be reached, so she'll just eject and leave you. Remember, you've gotta seem high up to a girl, but you can't seem too high that she can't reach you. It's balance. There's nothing wrong with being attractive to a woman, but if you take it too damn far and you act PERFECTLY in her eyes she'll feel she isn't worthy of you and she'll leave you. Sometimes you gotta show her the flaws purposely, too.

 

[VladPatton]

That's when you drop her. I see it as a sign of low interest. Hey, if you've got the time to chase and chase with minimal gain, be my guest, but for the most part, you'll be wasting your time.

 

[Mot1veProgress]

That's when you drop her. I see it as a sign of low interest. Hey, if you've got the time to chase and chase with minimal gain, be my guest, but for the most part, you'll be wasting your time.

It's not a sign of low interest. But it's a sign of when a girl is getting ready to utilize her vagina powers to full force.. Females are masters of mind games. If they sense you're playing hard to get or playing with their minds/emotions.. They'll start their own chess games.. and listen, we all know, the strongest piece on a chess board is THE QUEEN lol

But jokes aside, it's not a bad time to drop her.. Because who wants to tolerate mind games?