"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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She re-wired my mojo!

Life-Trainee

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I started seeing this girl over a month ago and I managed to develop pretty strong feelings for her. I'm not going AFC over her cuz I have pretty good self-restraint but something happened that totally messed me up. I developed a new kind of feel and desire for intimacy with her. As a result of these feelings my ability to climax went down. Since that happened my desire for porn disappeared overnight.

I haven't jacked it in a while because of this. It's like my horniness was re-routed into a more emotional thing. I can still get myself to come but with great effort to the point that it's not very enjoyable.

The other night we were making love and I still wasn't able to come or stay hard for a long time but I was having an orgasmic experience in my mind, i was completely in a state of euphoria emotionally. I think she got disappointed she couldn't get me off.

I looked into it, maybe it's a performance anxiety thing, but I can't get off when I'm on my own either! This literally happened overnight when I realized I had strong feelings for her.

Does anyone have a slightest idea wtf is going on here??

I'm still horny but it's all in my mind and I can't route it where I need to!

I'm pretty sure it's purely emotional thing cuz before I was a regular horny 23 year old.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Rogerman

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Just think that it's just a phase.. dont worry too much about it bro
 

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you're probably just nervous.you're worried that since you love this girl, your sexual performance won't be up to par with everything else and your lack of prowess will send her in the direction of another mate.

the only way to improve your sexual confidence is to get out there and practice. you will have some low points and high points, but if you work at it eventually your confidence shall improve and your levels of mojo should return to their previous states.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by Life-Trainee
I started seeing this girl over a month ago and I managed to develop pretty strong feelings for her. I'm not going AFC over her cuz I have pretty good self-restraint but something happened that totally messed me up. I developed a new kind of feel and desire for intimacy with her. As a result of these feelings my ability to climax went down. Since that happened my desire for porn disappeared overnight.

I haven't jacked it in a while because of this. It's like my horniness was re-routed into a more emotional thing. I can still get myself to come but with great effort to the point that it's not very enjoyable.

The other night we were making love and I still wasn't able to come or stay hard for a long time but I was having an orgasmic experience in my mind, i was completely in a state of euphoria emotionally. I think she got disappointed she couldn't get me off.

I looked into it, maybe it's a performance anxiety thing, but I can't get off when I'm on my own either! This literally happened overnight when I realized I had strong feelings for her.

Does anyone have a slightest idea wtf is going on here??

I'm still horny but it's all in my mind and I can't route it where I need to!

I'm pretty sure it's purely emotional thing cuz before I was a regular horny 23 year old.
I went through this same exact thing. Porn withdrawal/maybe some guilt that you're lookng at porn when you care for this girl so much, and a touch of performance anxiety.

You'll be over it soon. It was all mental for me. Good luck.
 
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