"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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She re-wired my mojo!

Life-Trainee

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I started seeing this girl over a month ago and I managed to develop pretty strong feelings for her. I'm not going AFC over her cuz I have pretty good self-restraint but something happened that totally messed me up. I developed a new kind of feel and desire for intimacy with her. As a result of these feelings my ability to climax went down. Since that happened my desire for porn disappeared overnight.

I haven't jacked it in a while because of this. It's like my horniness was re-routed into a more emotional thing. I can still get myself to come but with great effort to the point that it's not very enjoyable.

The other night we were making love and I still wasn't able to come or stay hard for a long time but I was having an orgasmic experience in my mind, i was completely in a state of euphoria emotionally. I think she got disappointed she couldn't get me off.

I looked into it, maybe it's a performance anxiety thing, but I can't get off when I'm on my own either! This literally happened overnight when I realized I had strong feelings for her.

Does anyone have a slightest idea wtf is going on here??

I'm still horny but it's all in my mind and I can't route it where I need to!

I'm pretty sure it's purely emotional thing cuz before I was a regular horny 23 year old.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Just think that it's just a phase.. dont worry too much about it bro
 

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you're probably just nervous.you're worried that since you love this girl, your sexual performance won't be up to par with everything else and your lack of prowess will send her in the direction of another mate.

the only way to improve your sexual confidence is to get out there and practice. you will have some low points and high points, but if you work at it eventually your confidence shall improve and your levels of mojo should return to their previous states.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Originally posted by Life-Trainee
I started seeing this girl over a month ago and I managed to develop pretty strong feelings for her. I'm not going AFC over her cuz I have pretty good self-restraint but something happened that totally messed me up. I developed a new kind of feel and desire for intimacy with her. As a result of these feelings my ability to climax went down. Since that happened my desire for porn disappeared overnight.

I haven't jacked it in a while because of this. It's like my horniness was re-routed into a more emotional thing. I can still get myself to come but with great effort to the point that it's not very enjoyable.

The other night we were making love and I still wasn't able to come or stay hard for a long time but I was having an orgasmic experience in my mind, i was completely in a state of euphoria emotionally. I think she got disappointed she couldn't get me off.

I looked into it, maybe it's a performance anxiety thing, but I can't get off when I'm on my own either! This literally happened overnight when I realized I had strong feelings for her.

Does anyone have a slightest idea wtf is going on here??

I'm still horny but it's all in my mind and I can't route it where I need to!

I'm pretty sure it's purely emotional thing cuz before I was a regular horny 23 year old.
I went through this same exact thing. Porn withdrawal/maybe some guilt that you're lookng at porn when you care for this girl so much, and a touch of performance anxiety.

You'll be over it soon. It was all mental for me. Good luck.
 
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