Hey guys I met this girl on OKC and I have a date with her on Tuesday. I found out through talking to her that she never had a bf before so I'm wondering if I need to handle her differently or act differently on the first date? I'm spinning 4 plates right now but of all of them she is the one I want an LTR with. Also what articles on the DJ Bible would you recommend I read for a first date. Finally I have a little bit of acne around my mouth and I'm wondering how much this bothers women? Thanks, I'm sure you will all give great advice as always!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She never had a bf before/first date rules
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Thanks for the advice guys. I've read through the first date stuff on the DJ Bible so that's helped. The biggest thing I see as being an issue is initiating kino, which I always feel like will be awkward. Any advice on that? Also I'm still curious about how most women feel about acne?
First. Take care of the acne. Really, all you can do is hope she doesn't mind it, but it's not making your looks any better. Do you like it on a girl? Get some stuff to take care of it and get rid of it as soon as you can.
Second - LTR, not been on a date? Seriously, get that out of your head. You've not been out with the girl, how do you know how much you like her? Spinning four plates, but don't know how to initiate kino, how to go on a first date, and want a LTR with the '5th' girl? I smell bull****.
Second - LTR, not been on a date? Seriously, get that out of your head. You've not been out with the girl, how do you know how much you like her? Spinning four plates, but don't know how to initiate kino, how to go on a first date, and want a LTR with the '5th' girl? I smell bull****.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.