Hey guys I met this girl on OKC and I have a date with her on Tuesday. I found out through talking to her that she never had a bf before so I'm wondering if I need to handle her differently or act differently on the first date? I'm spinning 4 plates right now but of all of them she is the one I want an LTR with. Also what articles on the DJ Bible would you recommend I read for a first date. Finally I have a little bit of acne around my mouth and I'm wondering how much this bothers women? Thanks, I'm sure you will all give great advice as always!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She never had a bf before/first date rules
- Thread starter drjed
- Start date
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Thanks for the advice guys. I've read through the first date stuff on the DJ Bible so that's helped. The biggest thing I see as being an issue is initiating kino, which I always feel like will be awkward. Any advice on that? Also I'm still curious about how most women feel about acne?
First. Take care of the acne. Really, all you can do is hope she doesn't mind it, but it's not making your looks any better. Do you like it on a girl? Get some stuff to take care of it and get rid of it as soon as you can.
Second - LTR, not been on a date? Seriously, get that out of your head. You've not been out with the girl, how do you know how much you like her? Spinning four plates, but don't know how to initiate kino, how to go on a first date, and want a LTR with the '5th' girl? I smell bull****.
Second - LTR, not been on a date? Seriously, get that out of your head. You've not been out with the girl, how do you know how much you like her? Spinning four plates, but don't know how to initiate kino, how to go on a first date, and want a LTR with the '5th' girl? I smell bull****.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.