Hey guys I met this girl on OKC and I have a date with her on Tuesday. I found out through talking to her that she never had a bf before so I'm wondering if I need to handle her differently or act differently on the first date? I'm spinning 4 plates right now but of all of them she is the one I want an LTR with. Also what articles on the DJ Bible would you recommend I read for a first date. Finally I have a little bit of acne around my mouth and I'm wondering how much this bothers women? Thanks, I'm sure you will all give great advice as always!
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She never had a bf before/first date rules
- Thread starter drjed
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Thanks for the advice guys. I've read through the first date stuff on the DJ Bible so that's helped. The biggest thing I see as being an issue is initiating kino, which I always feel like will be awkward. Any advice on that? Also I'm still curious about how most women feel about acne?
First. Take care of the acne. Really, all you can do is hope she doesn't mind it, but it's not making your looks any better. Do you like it on a girl? Get some stuff to take care of it and get rid of it as soon as you can.
Second - LTR, not been on a date? Seriously, get that out of your head. You've not been out with the girl, how do you know how much you like her? Spinning four plates, but don't know how to initiate kino, how to go on a first date, and want a LTR with the '5th' girl? I smell bull****.
Second - LTR, not been on a date? Seriously, get that out of your head. You've not been out with the girl, how do you know how much you like her? Spinning four plates, but don't know how to initiate kino, how to go on a first date, and want a LTR with the '5th' girl? I smell bull****.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.